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Spiritual Director

04/02/2013 new

I've had a few different people independently suggest that I seek out a spiritual director, and for the past few months I have been on the lookout for a good fit. Finally I met the most gentle, humble old priest. His body is rather weak and thus he uses a walker, but his mind and memory are wonderfully sharp! We will begin this week to meet on a regular basis.


Do you have a spritual director? In what ways have you found this relationship to be helpful (especially with regards to vocation)? Any advice for me?

04/02/2013 new

Always a good question. A lot of people swear by it and many have managed to simply fufill this need by their parish priest and confessor -sometimes the same. I've had a spiritual director or two which was great at helping me balance life out and staying faithful as good as I could. If its in your heart - there is probably a reason for it. If you are attracted to that gentle old priest, there is probably a reason for it. If you don't force it - it usually works out well :)

04/02/2013 new

(Quote) Christine-894237 said: I've had a few different people independently suggest that I seek out a spiritual directo...
(Quote) Christine-894237 said:

I've had a few different people independently suggest that I seek out a spiritual director, and for the past few months I have been on the lookout for a good fit. Finally I met the most gentle, humble old priest. His body is rather weak and thus he uses a walker, but his mind and memory are wonderfully sharp! We will begin this week to meet on a regular basis.


Do you have a spritual director? In what ways have you found this relationship to be helpful (especially with regards to vocation)? Any advice for me?

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HOW DID YOU FIND HIM? I would love that! You are so blessed to have found him! theheart

04/02/2013 new

(Quote) Marian-83994 said: HOW DID YOU FIND HIM? I would love that! You are so blessed to have found him!
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HOW DID YOU FIND HIM? I would love that! You are so blessed to have found him!

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Hi Marian! The Church I attend most regularly is home to 8 priests (8!) and I've had the pleasure recently of coming to know a few of them. This man is one of them.

04/02/2013 new

(Quote) Christine-894237 said: (Quote) Marian-83994 said: HOW DID YOU FIND HIM? I would love ...
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Marian-83994 said:



HOW DID YOU FIND HIM? I would love that! You are so blessed to have found him!



Hi Marian! The Church I attend most regularly is home to 8 priests (8!) and I've had the pleasure recently of coming to know a few of them. This man is one of them.

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What a beautiful blessing! Dove Did they recommend him? I would like to find someone for this same reason.

04/02/2013 new

I've had a Spiritual Director for about six years. She is a retired counselor who worked with Child Protective Services. She has received specialized training as a Spiritual Director. I am a licensed Clinical Social Worker, so we are a good fit. I met with her monthly for the first two years and now we meet once or twice a year when I feel I need a "tune-up"or when I have spiritual questions . She has pointed me to excellent books, retreats, websites, Bible verses, Catechism passages, and classes. She has seen me through a divorce, an annulment, and the death of my mother and my former husband. Her advice has always been spot on. She is wonderful and has impacted my spiritual growth immeasurably.

04/02/2013 new

I had a wonderful priest spiritual director for about two years, and he moved to DC and it was a huge loss to me.

I had a nun who was also elderly and infirm thereafter, and she was very nice, but didn't help me as much.

I think that it's important to get spiritual direction only from a priest, an orthodox one at that.

And that is hard to find.

A SD is not a shrink; your discussion should center on the spiritual aspects of whatever you want to talk about. So, if you are upset to still be single, it's not about how to get a man. It's about what is my vocation? What indicates I am called to the vocation of marraige, versus being a nun? How do I not compromise my morals, if I want to get married and the world tells me I need to compromise? Etc.

You usually can't talk to them that often, so an hour a month or so is about all you can expect.

I hope it is a good fit for you!

04/02/2013 new

I know of several I can use, I have access to a lady who lives at the other end of the country, but God still works through a phone.

There's a few Priests who help direct me as well, but I kinda lose track of things and haven't seen either outside of Mass and Confession in a while.

I've always found them more useful for direction with the Gifts rather than "this is your vocation discernment" process.

04/02/2013 new

(Quote) Pat-5351 said: I had a wonderful priest spiritual director for about two years, and he moved to DC and it was a huge...
(Quote) Pat-5351 said:

I had a wonderful priest spiritual director for about two years, and he moved to DC and it was a huge loss to me.

I had a nun who was also elderly and infirm thereafter, and she was very nice, but didn't help me as much.

I think that it's important to get spiritual direction only from a priest, an orthodox one at that.

And that is hard to find.

A SD is not a shrink; your discussion should center on the spiritual aspects of whatever you want to talk about. So, if you are upset to still be single, it's not about how to get a man. It's about what is my vocation? What indicates I am called to the vocation of marraige, versus being a nun? How do I not compromise my morals, if I want to get married and the world tells me I need to compromise? Etc.

You usually can't talk to them that often, so an hour a month or so is about all you can expect.

I hope it is a good fit for you!

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Very helpful, Pat. I've had a few local nuns recommended to me, but their order isn't known for orthodoxy. For that reason I didn't follow through on those recommendations. I've taken the time to get to know this priest and I've asked for input from others who know him too. I will be sure to remember your advice.

04/02/2013 new

I used to have a spiritual director, a nun, but she got transfered and I have been very lax in finding a new one. I don't open up easily and I had a nice relationship before, we were friends so I'm gun-shy now about choosing some one else. My previous S.D was found through a retreat I did but I don't want to go that rout again even though it worked out great before.

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