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The Pursuit game rules have changed, by hard nosed ultra feminist groups pounding the drum in advertising displaying men as incompetent fools and being portrayed in non flattering ways. A lot of men have been wounded by this brigade and you may have to revise tactics. It is probably why dating via the Internet has caught on. The degree of embarassment is reduced by not being face to face. Men are reluctant to pursue too hard afraid of being labeled as a sleaze or predator. Men have been given many mixed messages via media across the board. Damage has been done and needs to be factored in to the equation. The nicer the guy, the greater reluctance, because of the secular stereo types that have been associated with men being portrayed in media generally as disposable weaklings.
I think it's mostly true. But there a few painfully shy guys out there who might not- or so I've heard.
Us shy guts might have a hard time with trying to chase/ Sometimes we misread the ladies who play "hard to get", and mistake it for "I'm not interested", "you're not my type", or "go away".
Just how to appropriatly proceed seems to be the question. Having lived single in both a traditional conservative community and progressive urban areas, I now see the purpose fixed gender norms have in simplifying the dating game. I'll never forget the first time I tried opening a door for a woman on campus.
Just wondering. Because I'm still making myself open to be pursued and nothing is happening.
I am a "Shy" guy....I been shoot many many time..... I like the wome a make small move...(My only real "girlfriend" ask me out 6 yeay ago, it lated 6 months)....
try adding some photos(like Gary said). I need add some more photos.
take the temperament test.
Created a personal interview, with fun eye catching 1st questions.
Guys will pursue, but many need an "incentive" to keep going. That incentive is simply that the women respond to the pursuit rather than hide or run. I've sent out messages to women I've been interested in. Some have returned them, so I try to continue the conversation. Then it hits a point where they stop responding without saying anything.
At that point, the guy is going to give up and move on. A woman who is non-responsive is not worth the effort unless you know she's the one God has for you.