The Pursuit game rules have changed, by hard nosed ultra feminist groups pounding the drum in advertising displaying men as incompetent fools and being portrayed in non flattering ways. A lot of men have been wounded by this brigade and you may have to revise tactics. It is probably why dating via the Internet has caught on. The degree of embarassment is reduced by not being face to face. Men are reluctant to pursue too hard afraid of being labeled as a sleaze or predator. Men have been given many mixed messages via media across the board. Damage has been done and needs to be factored in to the equation. The nicer the guy, the greater reluctance, because of the secular stereo types that have been associated with men being portrayed in media generally as disposable weaklings.