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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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Apr 11th 2013 new

(Quote) Patrick-624504 said: By chaperone do you all mean some old unmarried Aunt knitting in the corner and the co...
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By chaperone do you all mean some old unmarried Aunt knitting in the corner and the couple sitting several metres apart. Why not just say NO. If they respect you they will stop, if they dont respect you and try to carry on LEAVE its that simple.

God gave us freewill, there is no magic bullet or one straight jacket fits all approach to Chastity except saying NO and be aware of your humanity and your sexuality and what they are for. Thats what Catechism was for, the Churches teaching on sex these are enough or should be if you believe that you are the people you have been portraying in this thread.

I think Occams Razor is the solution here, dont make life more complicated than it needs to be. After a marriage must be based on trust and respect, if paramours can not be honest with each other and respectful of each other, and their wishes/conduct when they are alone, then how can they make a Sacred Oath before God?

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The unmarried knitting Aunt is one solution, another might be that each one bring a friend for the date. Just saying NO is easier said that practically done in some instances. I know myself being weak when it comes to certain temptations. Being both physically and emotionally attracted to another person can definitely weaken my defences. To me, it would greatly help to have a friend close by in such a situation.

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Apr 11th 2013 new

(Quote) Tara-916865 said: The rosary, confession, and adoration work wonders. In the past, I may have gone a decade or more ...
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The rosary, confession, and adoration work wonders. In the past, I may have gone a decade or more without confession. I "upgraded" to once every few years, then to once a year, and now bascially once a month. lol Whoa, I know. I never knew what adoration was until I was in my 20's, and I went to Catholic school for many moons. I now go weekly for an hour. Until last year, I'd never said the rosary on my own... ever. I actually Googled it then downloaded podcasts just so I wouldn't mess it up. Now, I saw it almost daily. All of these are HUGE changes for me. I am not trying to be "holier than thou" by any means; my point is that I wasn't always this way, but I'm here now.

I heard the Everts speak about a week ago in Covington, LA at Abbey Youth Fest (over 4,000 teens came!). Jason Evert talked about how the rosary has helped him so much, especially with battling porn. He said that if you don't have the time to say the rosary, say a Hail Mary. If you don't have time to say a Hail Mary, keep saying "Mary" over and over throughout your temptations. He also talked about confession (recommended going every 2-3 weeks, or a month at the latest) and recommended adoration. The lines for confession were wrapped all around after his talk. Amazing.

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Tara,

Wonderful post. Just goes to prove over and over, our faith journey has its' ups and downs but we should never stop trying and learning more of our faith. As mortal humans, Jesus knew we would fail many times. Conversely, He knew it was important to us to establish the Sacrament of Reconciliation. If our hearts are in the right place, no matter how many times or how we sin, He is always willing to forgive and extend His mercy. It is our choice to accept or reject His offer.

Blessings always, Praying hug rose

Leon

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Apr 11th 2013 new
Erotic dreams don't help either. Mine are with unknown women I've never seen before. I wake up and think who the heck was that! Then I say "Jesus I trust in you" because that's Satan's trick to have you fancy what you just dreamt.
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Apr 11th 2013 new

Yes, the "theater of the mind" as I call it can be full of temptation!

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Apr 12th 2013 new

(Quote) Peter-933860 said: The unmarried knitting Aunt is one solution, another might be that each one bring a friend for th...
(Quote) Peter-933860 said:

The unmarried knitting Aunt is one solution, another might be that each one bring a friend for the date. Just saying NO is easier said that practically done in some instances. I know myself being weak when it comes to certain temptations. Being both physically and emotionally attracted to another person can definitely weaken my defences. To me, it would greatly help to have a friend close by in such a situation.

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I certainly agree, with you on temptation, and I am by no means a Saint or made of stone. I just remember what my Mother, God Rest Her, said to and taught me about respect for women and being a gentleman. NO has never been a problem for me, YES is much harder. As for double dates I have seen some end worse than Guantanimo Bay and I certainly would prefer to meet a new person publicly but on my own.

Having company can be problematic and stiffling, and can backfire with your partner going with your new ex best friend.

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Apr 12th 2013 new

(Quote) Patrick-624504 said: I certainly agree, with you on temptation, and I am by no means a Saint or made of sto...
(Quote) Patrick-624504 said:

I certainly agree, with you on temptation, and I am by no means a Saint or made of stone. I just remember what my Mother, God Rest Her, said to and taught me about respect for women and being a gentleman. NO has never been a problem for me, YES is much harder. As for double dates I have seen some end worse than Guantanimo Bay and I certainly would prefer to meet a new person publicly but on my own.

Having company can be problematic and stiffling, and can backfire with your partner going with your new ex best friend.

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Yes you're right. It can backfire. But hey, few things are certain and safe in this universe. Dang that Heisenberg and his principle of uncertainty. laughing

For me it's the YES I don't have any problems with. I need a lot more practice with NO.

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Apr 13th 2013 new
Thanks, Leon! I saw something on Twitter during Holy Week that said something like - I fail Jesus everyday, so why do I try? Because he got back up everytime he fell on the way to Calvary. So powerful and beautiful!
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Apr 13th 2013 new
Wise man!
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Apr 13th 2013 new

(Quote) Tara-916865 said:Thanks, Leon! I saw something on Twitter during Holy Week that said something like - I fail Jesus everyday...
(Quote) Tara-916865 said:Thanks, Leon! I saw something on Twitter during Holy Week that said something like - I fail Jesus everyday, so why do I try? Because he got back up everytime he fell on the way to Calvary. So powerful and beautiful!
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Tara,

That is so great. Thank you for sharing. I am going to copy and keep it on my nightstand. It will be on inspiration so the next time I feel I can go no further, those words will be my inspiration to keep going.

Blessings, Praying hug rose

Leon

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Apr 13th 2013 new

"To be pure, to remain pure, can only come at a price, the price of knowing God and loving him enough to do his will. He will always give us the strength we need to keep purity as something as beautiful for him."



- Blessed Mother Teresa

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