(Quote) Dawn-58330 said: I have found that one of the great challenges I've had to face living the single life is guarding agai...
(Quote) Dawn-58330 said: I have found that one of the great challenges I've had to face living the single life is guarding against selfishness. While living alone it is so easy to just live how I want, doing what I want when I want, and throwing out consideration for others. It can be habit forming. (Fortunately, I think the very fact that I am aware of this temptation, helps me to not be this way.)
Me. Me. Me. I. I. I.
I guess it depends on how you view selfishness, and various other aspects in life. I am very active in the community, and do a lot of volunteer work. Many would say that is very un-selfish, but the reality is it is somewhat selfish. Why do I do the volunteer work, because I feel appreciated, because I enjoy hanging out with the guys, and because I feel good for being able to give back. I feel better being able to give my time (and it does more for me psychologically) then just cutting a cheque to a local charity. So some might argue this is being selfish. I personally think it's a win-win, so I have never really put labels on it.
There are times when I do things for me, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I feel that I work hard for my money, and I deserve to be able to spend such that I get pleasure from it. Given my earlier expeirences with life I personally detest the concept of a "bucket list" or waiting until some moment is just perpect. Life is short, you never know when it's going to end so enjoy it, if you want to do it, and you can aford to do it, etc. then DO IT! Assuming of course that it's moral and ethical ... I'm not talking extreme behavior. I know that may sound very selfish, but you never know what the future will have in store.
IF the time comes that I have another lady in my life then we can discuss my priorities, and we can discuss what has to be traded such that we can spend more time together. Until then I'm going to continue burning the candle at both ends, so that I can selfishsly receive pleasure through my unselfish gift of self to the community. That and some time off to recharge and do things I've always wanted to do!