This room is for supportive and informative discussion about divorce and/or the annulment process. All posters must have been previously divorced or annulled.
Saint Eugene De Mazenod is patron of dysfunctional families & Saint Fabiola obtained a divorce from her first husband prior to devoting her life to charitable works.
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The shock especially can last awhile. It is good you have people to talk with. Talk to friends, again and again. It will help you get through it. Also, Adoration in front of the Blessed Sacrament helped me a lot. Tell Jesus all about it and what you are feeling. He wants to hear you talk to Him, even though He already knows. He loves to have your time and attention. Strenuous exercise, at least a half hour each day was helpful for me. It worked off some of the emotion and stress.
Rest assured you are in my daily prayers. God bless you....
Something I have heard in sermons and read over and over...I repeat it almost daily:Today and everyday, I am exactly where God wants me to be. Someday we will see His wisdom in what He allows and what He does, and we will marvel.
Bless you, Ashley. It sounds as if you have a lot going for you in the midst of this painful journey.
A couple of other suggestions: keep a journal--write out all your frustrations, fears, anger, etc. Search for & write out God's powerful promises to you that are found in scripture. Someone said that there's a lot of energy that moves from the brain through your hand onto the paper as you write & that itself is a healing action. If you are able to do so, get a massage to help relax.
Oh, Ashley, I've been there too. I left my husband of 13+ years when I found out he'd been cheating the whole marriage, and also with my best friend/maid of honor. I can agree with and relate to what everyone else has said - DivorceCare, DC4K, journaling, Christian counseling.....anything you can grasp onto that keeps you supported and sane. I'm sure many of us could write a book on divorce advice (especially the part about whoever has the most childcare duties gets most of the joint family money each month...). But Proverbs 3:5-6 says "Trust in the LORD with all your heart; rely not on your own intelligence. In all your ways be mindful of Him and He will make your paths straight."
My whole marriage I had it backwards: I trusted my husband with everything and brought God along for the ride. I should have been entrusting my life to God and inviting my husband to join me there. I've got it straight now.
My favorite prayer getting through my divorce was this: "God, make your will STUPIDLY OBVIOUS to me; and put the right people IN MY FACE to help me recognize it, embrace it, and fulfill it." When you're in the pit of dispair, your prayers get pretty simple and direct. God our Father knows what you and your babies need, and He has a much better vantage point from where he stands. Trust Him with everything and He will let you know what you need to do! Praying for you!!!!!