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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

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What do you like and dislike about being single?
Apr 25th 2013 new

Being an only child, been used to being alone and 'self sufficient' the hardest part about being single has been to have someone to share 'the hard times' things like a family crisis or even death of a pet, the proverbial loving shoulder to cry on/share with etc and not only for the receiving end but in the sharing and giving side of it too...just having that other person there for you, I have great friends but sometimes it's just not the same...also, being in a group where you are the ONLY one never married and they are sharing about their mates and children and you feel you don't have anything to contribute then (but those thoughts are fleeting though!)

Apr 25th 2013 new

I have never been married so I'm looking at being single as not having a boyfriend. And in that case, I miss not having someone to:

- text first thing in the morning, to wish a lovely day or to find out if he's going to work-out.

- talk endlessly with (on the phone) about the day's activities.

- visit or at least look forward to visiting.

- send cards and presents to.

- pray for especially when I say the rosary.

- send 'unnecessary' letters with silly drawings and my supposedly fine signature to.

- talk about endlessly to my friends.

Not to mention not having someone to:

- care for me with beautiful kind words and deeds.

- give me that feeling of protection.

- miss when we're apart.

I could go on and on, smile

Apr 25th 2013 new

(Quote) Tom-432657 said: What do you like and dislike about being single?
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It is difficult to cook for one. All the recipes that I know are for meals of four people or more. I rarely purchase large quantities of fresh produce or anything that has an expiration date. If I do have the desire for large home cooked meal, it results in leftovers all week long.

Apr 25th 2013 new

Some of the cons: Not having the feeling that there's someone who 'has your back', someone who's there to hold you up when you are down, someone to share all the nonsensical news of the day with. In professional life it could get difficult too - in my previous job I had to socialise, and sometimes I felt left out when the conversation turned to children and spouses (which happened rather often). In family life, the single daughter/sister is sometimes taken for granted by siblings as babysitter and caregiver. The Pros: you don't need to consult someone else if you want to go out, if you want to travel, if you want to stay out late, etc .... though it'd be nice to have someone to travel with!

Apr 26th 2013 new
(Quote) Jacqueline-198 said: Being an only child, been used to being alone and 'self sufficient' the hardest part about being sing...
(Quote) Jacqueline-198 said:

Being an only child, been used to being alone and 'self sufficient' the hardest part about being single has been to have someone to share 'the hard times' things like a family crisis or even death of a pet, the proverbial loving shoulder to cry on/share with etc and not only for the receiving end but in the sharing and giving side of it too...just having that other person there for you, I have great friends but sometimes it's just not the same...also, being in a group where you are the ONLY one never married and they are sharing about their mates and children and you feel you don't have anything to contribute then (but those thoughts are fleeting though!)

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You took the words right out of my mouth Jackie!
Apr 26th 2013 new
(Quote) Audrey-964855 said: Some of the cons: Not having the feeling that there's someone who 'has your back', someone who'...
(Quote) Audrey-964855 said:

Some of the cons: Not having the feeling that there's someone who 'has your back', someone who's there to hold you up when you are down, someone to share all the nonsensical news of the day with. In professional life it could get difficult too - in my previous job I had to socialise, and sometimes I felt left out when the conversation turned to children and spouses (which happened rather often). In family life, the single daughter/sister is sometimes taken for granted by siblings as babysitter and caregiver. The Pros: you don't need to consult someone else if you want to go out, if you want to travel, if you want to stay out late, etc .... though it'd be nice to have someone to travel with!

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Just as when you're single you have more freedom but not complete freedom. What I mean is the only person you have to worry about is you but there is no one to help you when needed.
Apr 26th 2013 new

(Quote) Tom-432657 said: What do you like and dislike about being single?
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Like - More prayer time. Plenty of time to work on my relationship with the Lord.


Dislike - That feeling I had after the Boston bombing, and no one to comfort or be comforted by.

Apr 26th 2013 new

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I like the fact that I know I can do it on my own. I am self sufficent (for the most part). I am able to do basic repairs on my house and car. I don't "need" a man. I've created a support network in my neighborhood that I know is always looking out for me and my son.


The other side is I miss having someone to talk to about the day and things I read or saw on TV. Someone to snugle up with and watch a movie with. That personal connection with someone that knows you as well as you know them. Most of all, after getting *really* sunburned last weekend, I missed having someone to put lotion (and sunblock for that matter) on my back :)

Apr 26th 2013 new

CONS
Whether you are single or widowed, relatives treat you like a half-wit.
No one to chime in with "I'm not sure that's such a good idea..."
No one to be kind to. No one who cares if the house is neat.
No one to laugh with, to make laugh, or make ME laugh.
No one share ideas, plans, dreams with. (Relatives - see above - only knock 'em all down.)
No one to tell you you're attractive (even if it's a lie).
Less income.
No obvious purpose in life.

PROS
Don't have to cook.
Less housework.
Don't have to consult anyone when I want to redecorate.
Don't have to "report in" when I want to go somewhere.

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