My ex-husband and I have a very odd situation (in a good way) in that we are able (and willing) to spend time together with our son and have it be pleasant and sometimes even fun. We usually limit the time we spend "as a family" to going to eat after baseball or other practice, or going to a ball game or other event because we feel it's important that he see that we can do things together like his friend's families. My son loves his dad, however I feel that his dad takes an out of sight out of mind attitude in that he rarely calls during his non-custodial time. Our court order allows each of us to call up to twice per day on our non-custodial time and allows our son to call the other parent whenever he wants.
He spent the weekend with his dad and came home at bedtime last night. This morning, my son woke up crying wanting his dad. He called and talked to his dad for a little bit, but dad had to go back to work. He wanted to go get Starbucks near where his dad worked, but we didn't have enough time before school. This lead to more crying that he wanted his dad and wanted to be able to see his dad after school. I don't usually let my son spend time with his dad during my custodial time unless we are already getting together for sports or something else.
Does anyone have experience with little guys (4-5yo) wanting to see the other parent and do you find it is beneficial or does more harm than good letting them see their other parent when they want. Part of me want's to stick to the schedule and help him learn to adapt, but the other part of me know's this is a little guy with a lot of issues that just wants to see his dad.