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Hello CM world-
I've been divorced for nearly 7 years, actively dated for 5. Everyone I've dated possessed the proverbial "deal-breaker" for me. Quite possibly, I was not ready to date. I've been 'on hiatus' for 2 years and even though I do miss having another half, I have difficulty envisioning sharing my space with someone. Has anyone else been through this phenomenon?
Pam, I think you will find that most single-again people struggle with this question. We may truly treasure the freedom that we are experiencing, especially if we were in a long-term marriage & now have an empty nest. Yet, on the other hand, it sure would be nice to be part of a loving couple, that is appealing, too. I keep asking God to show me His will for my life.
I question myself all the time. Now that my children are getting older (my youngest is 16 now), I feel like I should develop more friendships and be open to the possibility of another relationship. However, I like my autonomy and the freedom that I have. I have not dated at all for about 10 years. I had a special relationship when I was first divorced, and he was wonderful to me and my kids, but we were at diffent points in life and it didn't work out. My kids liked him, and when we stopped seeing each other, I felt it was another loss to my kids. I think I would like to just take it slow, make a friend, go once in awhile, and let it go where it will. In time, I think maybe there would be more with the right person. If that came to pass, I would rather get a new "space" to live in that would be for the two of us, not my space.
..... I like my autonomy and the freedom that I have. I think I would like to just take it slow, make a friend, go once in awhile, and let it go where it will. In time, I think maybe there would be more with the right person. If that came to pass, I would rather get a new "space" to live in that would be for the two of us, not my space.
I agree Marianne,. ...well said.
Steven, I agree that that book is very good.
In addition, Rose Sweet's Dear God, Please Send Me a Soulmate
Neil Clark Warren's Finding the Love of Your Life
The Evert's How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul
Living autonomously creates a pre-condition of "my space" ... living as a single person. We've created a space where everything in it more or less defines us as a single personality.
When we meet someone special and want to be with them, we become a couple and start to share the inner space of the heart. That condition allows us to consider creating a space together. The outer physical reality only matches the inner reality. So, I don't think anyone who has created their world/space/lifestyle, so to speak, can change how they truly define it until the heart-space changes. IMHO... :-)