Are you still optimistic? .. I am trying to stay upbeat, but as more and more time passes, it is increasingly difficult to retain that sense of hope ... How do you feel deep down in your heart? Still thinking it will happen, or starting to wear down and wonder if it is just a fantasy notion that will never come to be? .... How do you handle the possibility that there might not be anyone just for you in this whole wide world?
I would advise you or anyone who is suffering to try to take joy in the smallest things. That is a good place to start. Feeling grateful in those small things is a start toward many areas where we can build something. It is a mental/emotional/spiritual exercise that I have to do right this minute because I am struggling right at this moment but it helps me to orient myself into the outlook where I function best and where God can help me and work with me best.
So giving thanks for the small stuff is a starting point and can sometimes turn our thoughts around toward a positive action. Sometimes it is us who has to do the reaching out toward another person.