(Quote) Marge-938695 said:
Not the same thing.Physical fitness WILL go...sooner or later. Maybe he's a couch potato ...
(Quote) Marge-938695 said:
Not the same thing.
Physical fitness WILL go...sooner or later. Maybe he's a couch potato at 55, maybe not until 90. But it will go.
Hygiene need never go until he's in assisted living.
I see nothing wrong in a man saying that if it is important to him and IF he is living out that value or at least trying to. If he is not then it is ridiculous that he would hold a woman to a higher standard than he has for himself and would signal to me that he has a low self-esteem, is unrealistic or just plain crazy. None of these are attractive qualities. I have seen a few of these men on here and it almost as amusing as it is sad. Thankfully they are the minority.
Personally while I am not perfect at it, ( far from it) I think that it is truly important to take good care of yourself physical fitness-wise and hygiene-wise. Fr. Marty always says in his counsel to me that we should see care of self as a form of thankgiving to God for the gift of our bodies and also as a recognition that our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. It is easy to not take care of yourself so it is a form of self-denial and mortification to do the opposite and care for yourself. Therefore we should see care for ourselves as a form of prayer and a way of pleasing God by going against our natural will and bending it towards God.
He also said that as children of God we have a royal legacy since we are children of a king. That we should therefore also dress and act in a way befitting that position. That in the same way that when we see someone dressed nicely we automatically think that this person is important, that we act and dress as someone important because we are. No human rank or success can ever outshine the legacy of being made in the image and likeness of God.
We should do all this, not in a manner to call attention to ourselves or to be boastful but as a gift of ourselves to God and in recognition of the fact that he has created us second only to Him and higher than even the angels. We should therefore thank Him and act in a way that shows Him that we recognize the gift that He has given us in creating us in His likeness.
Living out that value is therefore important to me and standard that I want to live up too. I therefore want a man who thinks like that because I need support in living out that value and it is easier to do it if your life partner is committed to it as well. I know that I am not disciplined enough to stick to it if I am married to a man lax about this value. I also live a very active lifestyle with my kids and we need someone who can keep up.
I know that it is a sensitive topic for many people as we are always most sensitive about our weaknesses and areas that we know that we need to work on. I think that while we don't have ot fit the mold of society's standard of beauty, that we should all strive to move towards health and healthy habits. It is also important to pass those values on to our kids.
So basically if a man is requesting it for the right reasons there is not an issue but if it is just because he has some unrealistic pipe-dream of being with a super model then it may be a red flag. That being said I know one such man who put it in his profile as a way of weeding out and he is no where close to being as rigid or as superficial as his profile sounds. He just figured that it would cut out the people who were living unhealthy lifestyles. It is the same way that some women have said that they put in their profile that they are willful and that if a man can't accept that he need not contact them. We all have some way of narrowing down our pool.