Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.
Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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Even though you may believe in premarital sex for yourself, certainly you would respect a woman that doesn't. Make sure you let her know that you would be respectful of her beliefs and it's not a deal breaker for you. You might be surprised at the beautiful woman God has waiting for you:) Read the Book of Tobit in the Catholic Bible, it is truly inspirational on this topic.
I think Laura said it very well. In addition, the admonition against premartital sex is plainly stated in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 and Galatians 5:16-25. So, it's not the priests or the Church, it is truly God who gives us this caution.
Personally, I am willing to give the benefit of the doubt to a person who doesn't agree with #7 because it just may be that he will respect my beliefs & standards in this regard.
However, I will generally pass over a profile of someone who does not put God at the center of his life & that includes attending Mass less than weekly.
As others have suggested, DO NOT LIE about who you are & what you believe & practice.
And I do agree with the advice to be patient because sometimes it takes time to get even one solid response from someone you might connect with.
I have read through the posts and do not find them judgemental. Albert asked why he was not getting responses and a number of us answered.
It is a fact that this is a Catholic site. And a large number of men and women are here to seek a partner who will help them in their Catholic journey. So this is one area where many would not respond back to him. In fact, I only read Albert's profile to give him constructive feedback, as he asked for it. Just because one does not agree with it, does not mean that it is judgmental. I think the posts have been very charitable, asking Albert to discern and pray about his stance on premarital sex. Our Lady of Fatima has said, " More souls go to hell for sins of the flesh than for any other reason."
The bible and the church teachings are very clear about this. To me it is not a personal value system but a Catholic value system based on God's teaching. To do anything else is disobedience to God. And to me a 45 year old virgin is precious in the sight of God. That is our calling.
"Do you not realise that people who do evil will never inherit the kingdom of God? Make no mistake -- the sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, the self-indulgent, sodomites, thieves, misers, drunkards, slanderers and swindlers, none of these will inherit the kingdom of God.
Some of you used to be of that kind: but you have been washed clean, you have been sanctified, and you have been justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and through theSpirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6 : 9-11
Is it OK for us to remain silent and let a soul be lost? If someone has failed in this area, God is forgiving. He is always there to give us the strength we require to remain chaste. You can be washed clean.
So those of you who think premarital sex is OK, please pray and seek God and he will guide you. I pray that God bless you and show everyone seeking, the light and the truth.
Pauline wrote some mighty powerful words for all of us to ponder.
Hi Albert, I am new here too and feel the same way you do. It's hard to tell what the other person is thinking when you don't even get a response to an emotigram. I try to answer everyone and even send a thank you to let them know I appreciate they viewed my profile. I think the others are right. We just need to give it time and hope God will lead us to our "perfect match"!
I too have encountered this problem, and have thought about it quite extensively. From what I have gathered from reading the forums and my own experiences here emotigrams and almost as personal as waving at someone from across a crowded room. There is no connection with them. Send a message to the person you find interesting, maybe ask a simple question about their day or their week. Tell them what in their profile sparked your interest. Hopefully it was more than simply their profile picture. If they don't respond to an actual message then they likely are not paying members of the website. If they do respond then you have established a connection and can begin to learn more about them, see if that spark of interest is more than just a spark. I know my advice likely doesn't count for much as compared to that given by some of these other folks here on the forum but I hope you can take what helps and leave what doesn't.
I would love to get feedback on how to get more involved with this site.
I have been unable to get girls to write back and engage in conversations. Not withstanding that many may not like the way I look, getting no responses in writing (many emoticons, no actual messages) is making the experience on catholic match a disappointing one. Any suggestions or is there a proper protocol that must be observed?
Continue doing what you do.
Attend local events or even plan an event, mass and brunch, dinner and a movie, dinner and mass, ice cream, coffee, outdoor concerts etc Just keep on keeping on and don't give up, have patience and don't put so much pressure on yourself and do have fun in the process God's Blessings!!
Very interesting point.
I don't know if I would agree entirely with your definition, but I would certainly amend my categories to include those I sometimes call "God's broken ones". Some of them may fall into your "beset by demons", but I suspect they are two overlapping rings on a Venn diagram.