But I guess what I am looking for us to share in this thread is what specifically we will gift our spouse with.
I don't think it's that easy Dawn, lets remember that God has a sense of humour! If you would have asked me this question a month before I got married I probably would have said that my gift to my spouse to be would be that she wouldn't have to work hard to earn my affection and love. I say this because she had to work very hard to have a relationship with her Dad, and he was not an effectionate father.
In many respects I think I think I kept that promise, but I didn't know at the time the amount of suffering I would have to ensure as a result of my decission to marry her. I didn't realize she was going to need near round the clock care, that she would be scared to be alone, that she would be so weak that she couldn't get her self out of bed without help, that medical treatments would rob us of our dreams just after our first anniversary.
I think the biggest gift we can give our spouses is the complete gift of self, in whatever way the marriage demands it. If that means dying to yourself inside, then die to yourself. If that means being so exhausted that you can barely get out of bed to help her out, the find the strength and pray to God that you'll be able to catch up on your rest later, and find another way to recharge.