(Quote) Stephanie-811058 said:
Anyone dealing with someone close to live leaving the church for another religion? Bonus comi...
(Quote) Stephanie-811058 said:
Anyone dealing with someone close to live leaving the church for another religion? Bonus comisery points if your loved one has "reverted" to Islam.
I've found myself in a very touchy situation where I accidently found about my sister's conversion on Twitter and have decided to respect her decision to not tell my parents until she is financially stable.
Prayers are welcome, as are suggestions for books for my own reading pleasure and knowledge about Islam's teachings. Bonus points if you have dealt with a similar situation and have solid advice.
Please don't tell me how terrible a daughter I am for not telling my parents...I have talked this over with a trusted priest and believe this is the best way to love my sister at this moment.
I am the oldest of five. I am the only practicing Catholic among the group. One brother was making a valiant effort to return but I don't know where he is with it at the moment. One brother doesn't want anyone telling him what to do -- had a big Catholic wedding twenty years ago though. And, my youngest brother is teetering between agnosticism and atheism, but he doth protest too much :-) comes down to how can all this evil happen if there really is a God. His wife I think however is teetering in wanting to believe :-) so we will see.
My sister was one of these who did everything her way, which was generally not in accord with Church teaching. Before her death she had started the process, went back to classes, had her children baptized and in RE, etc. Then Father said to her, okay, let's talk about validating your marriage -- which put the brakes on her progress. When I asked her about it, she said, "well, I don't want to be married in the Church in case I decide to divorce." I shook my head. So, she passed away nine months before Pete. Since her death, one of my nieces has gotten very involved with the Baptist church. One of her sister's has toyed with it -- been saved -- but that's it. Another sister, who was practicing her faith, has started going to one of the big megachurches, because it feels good and they have fun stuff for the kids. She I think will actually come around. Her marriage has fallen apart, not due to anything on her part, but due to the fact that her husband had a prescription pill addiction she didn't know about, and he is currently incarcerated. I think her wandering is part of the confusion over what has happened to her family.
Of my brother's kiddos: My niece Shyann asked for a Rosary for Christmas, stunning her mother and father, but I got her one. She wanted to start going to Mass, and they live not far from a great parish and she's old enough now to go on her own, so lots of prayers.
Another niece got very involved in a protestant church as a youth, not baptist but not sure which denomination it was. She has since I think sort of fallen away from that as well. Her younger sister has asked to go to mass with grammy -- so there is hope.
I just try to pray for them. My mom prayers everyday for their return to the church. And, whenever the opportunity arises we talk about it. Of my own children two are practicing, one is caught in the selfishness of her early twenties when she "can't seem to fit it in" and the youngest waffles but likewise can't seem to make it a priority.
I set an example and I pray for them, we talk about it and I have faith that they will return to the practice one day.