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Hi, Maria, welcome to the forums. I looked at your profile and under ideal match you have a few things you are looking for in a man. What is the difference? If a guy is looking for someone physically fit that is his right also. We are all unique and attracted to different things in people. So, if you see something in someone's profile that you don't like....don't sweat it just move on:)
I ride aqbout 50- 80 miles weekly on my road bicycle and do when I am at a casino smoke a few and drink sevral alcoholic drinks when I am there. Viewing the various responds I am in the very small minorithy. It feels like a very close knit clan and not very welcome.
Maria, I have seen the same thing in men's profiles (among other things) and these are men in their 50's-60's-70'... as I am much older than you. I get viewed by and view older men. It, quite honestly, bothered me too, at first, for a little while. I can understand if they want someone to go mountain climbing, surfing, hang gliding, bungee jumping or do other activities that require you to be "Physically Fit". If that is the reason for the "Physically Fit" requirement, then perhaps, I can understand. However, if it is just for "Attraction", well my dear Gentlemen, look in a mirror. I don't mean to be unkind. I believe they are, or could be, losing out on a possible relationship or friendship. I don't waste much energy on it anymore. I don't have that requirement. I only require a kind, good, honest man who is a gentleman. Good Luck and don't let it get to you. Their lose, Your gain.
Well, as an active person, I insist on someone who is fit enough to do active things with. Someone who I can hike with, walk with, kayak with, and otherwise enjoy life with. I don't think it is wrong for a healthy man or a woman to seek someone capable of keeping up with him/her, whom he or she can experience life fully with. Hiking together is one of the things I want to be able to share with someone. To hold hands while we walk and take in God's creation...just pure joy.
Now, if the reasoning is solely for physical pleasure or the thought of parading a trophy spouse around, then no... the reason for finding someone who is "physically fit" is unacceptable. Still, there is good reason to seek a spouse who is similarly fit...if sharing activities together is something that is a requirement.
Since I keep physically fit and know the importance of it, I would say that you could do better. Smoking and drinking more than one or two is not being physically fit. It's good to get some exercise outdoors on your bike but your diet also has to be healthy to be fit.
I've know avid cyclists who were overweight and not very healthy.