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I am a devout Catholic and believe in celibacy until marriage. I'm not a prude or frigid. I love cuddling, kissing, hugs, and holding hands. I just think that the physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy of love-making should be reserved until after the I do's have been said.
I get a lot of views but the only men who contact me are ones with obviously fake profiles. You can tell they are fake because they say they have a master's degree yet can't spell, punctuate or use proper grammar. They all read the same as well.
Sometimes someone will contact me without having actually viewed my profile. When I ask if they have read it, they stop communicating. My guess is that they get to that part and decide they are no longer interested.
So - should I leave that paragraph out of a profile and hope that I might meet someone who will like me enough to agree to honor my values if/when the issue comes up? I don't want to lead anyone on or appear that I'm playing games. I also want to avoid the argument that I've had with others. You know the one. "You've been married and have kids so you obviously aren't a virgin. So why wait for marriage? How can you wait since you've obviously already had sex?"
Thought and opinions as well as sharing your experiences regarding this are all welcome.
Why get to know someone and then have to reveal that?
the answer to why wait now if you were married before and had relaions , the answer would be that was then in the marriage bed, therefore , you have to wait now until the next marriage. ;-)
I don't think I would add that to my profile, unless you want to ward off men who are just interested in a hook up. When I come across that, where some guy immediately jumps into the "hey baby, let's hook up" sort of thing, I just tell him that is inappropriate and refuse to engage. Some have just disappeared and some come back, apologize and then we carry on some nice conversations. As my son informed me, "Mom, most of these dating sites are really hook-up sites, people just looking to hook up." And, I think he's probably right. I signed up on a whim for another site, before i found CM and have had more propositions than I ever did as a cute little eighteen year old. Completely floors me, even worse are the seriously cheesy pick-up lines. I just handle them as above and they weed out pretty readily. I've quit even looking at that site and have set up for it to not renew when it expires. YEAH. :-). It isn't that I am a prude or frigid either, I just want a relationship that entails the entirety of my being and person, not just some shallow sexual encounter. I would probably take that out of your profile and weed them out as they come. Some guy might start off that way and when you lay it out, they may come back and be apologetic and respectful. If they don't then they weren't interested in anything deeper to begin with.
You cannot be wrong in what you believe is proper (it is after all a Church teaching), but I'm afraid I must agree with Lauren. Yes, you may meet men only interested in hook-ups. But you may also meet men who, after a 1st positive encounter, may feel as you do. My opinion - and I've shared this on other posts, if you wish to look them up - is that the profile is no more than a selling tool (I know, sounds terrible). Think of it as a resume for a job. Most people, and perhaps you, list mostly the positive aspects most likely to get a job offer. The resume is no place to list any buts, or ifs, or no ways. Those issues, in my opinion, come at the second interview - the first date, or perhaps the second, if you will.
Good luck. God bless.
I find any blanket statements in the profile as to what a man demands, expects, or will tolerate are an immediate "turn off".
God bless you. And may you find that special person.