Oh, yes, quite right. Thank you Joanna.
The answer is that they were idiots. And, as per one of the themes of the thread, kinda messed up in the head. And I was speaking to how people will take advantage of the messed up ones. The predatory males and the all-too-willing-to-comfort females.
And I have personally seen the separated or divorced girls who throw themselves at a guy to get the reassurance they desperately feel they need. How much better to sit her up and talk her into faith and resolve and have her walk out of the room with her strong and sure again? It can be done. Things don't have to be a mess. Things don't have to get worse.
It can be such a blessing to be the first person someone meets. This is why I say it can be a good thing to "date" a recently divorced person or to "date" someone who doesn't have their annulment yet. To protect and strengthen and affirm.
Actually, come to think of it, my last few dates were with my local Catholic lady friend Cathy. Oh my gosh is she cute or what! Yea man. And she needs her short form annulment and is all squared away with doing that now. See, case in point. No misbehavior, all good, and Jim gets seen with a pretty girl.* Heh heh.
*Just a reminder. It is everyone's responsibility to make sure I am seen with pretty girls. Organize yourselves!