I am looking for some guidance. Although such instances are rare, I am a bit concerned about what to do when we come across another person's profile where the marital status seems a bit unclear or confused.
Marriage is a serious business, and even broader society acknowledges this. Separated is not the same thing as divorced. Being married is a legal status until the marriage is formally dissolved with a divorce. In the Catholic Church, a marriage is dissolved only after divorce and annulment.
While I can be sympathetic to those who are experiencing the breakdown of their marriage and that this is painful and difficult and so on, someone's marital status is a serious matter. Someone who is only separated but not divorced is still legally married. They also are married in the eyes of the Church. As this is a Catholic site, we should be guiding each other towards what is moral and in accordance with Catholic teaching and ensuring that members do not fall into the moral traps of someone else's personal definition of a grey area.
What do we as members of a Catholic community when we encounter someone who has their status as listedas divorced, but in their profile they describe themselves as "separated"? Are we to message the individual to ask them to clarify? Do we submit a help ticket and let the site administrators sort it out with the individual?