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I am looking for some guidance. Although such instances are rare, I am a bit concerned about what to do when we come across another person's profile where the marital status seems a bit unclear or confused.

Marriage is a serious business, and even broader society acknowledges this. Separated is not the same thing as divorced. Being married is a legal status until the marriage is formally dissolved with a divorce. In the Catholic Church, a marriage is dissolved only after divorce and annulment.

While I can be sympathetic to those who are experiencing the breakdown of their marriage and that this is painful and difficult and so on, someone's marital status is a serious matter. Someone who is only separated but not divorced is still legally married. They also are married in the eyes of the Church. As this is a Catholic site, we should be guiding each other towards what is moral and in accordance with Catholic teaching and ensuring that members do not fall into the moral traps of someone else's personal definition of a grey area.

What do we as members of a Catholic community when we encounter someone who has their status as listedas divorced, but in their profile they describe themselves as "separated"? Are we to message the individual to ask them to clarify? Do we submit a help ticket and let the site administrators sort it out with the individual?
Jun 13th 2013 new
Submit a help ticket with the person's name and number and let CM know they are listing themselves as divorced while stating in their profile they really aren't (yet). Our culture supports dating with the intent to divorce, so there are dating sites where "separated" is a choice to click for marital status. Any member on here who is still legally married must be thinking CM is like those secular dating sites.
Jun 13th 2013 new
Hi Angela, good question. As the previous post stated, yes please submit a help ticket and let the Staff review the profile. I may have to review the Terms of Use again, but i believe that being Separated is a violation. Thanks,
Jun 13th 2013 new
Hi Angela.
When you come across profiles like this, you can either select "Report this profile" and add a note to let us know or you can submit a help ticket. When we receive reports of this nature, we will ask them if they are still legally married and request verification of their divorce in order to determine whether they are eligible to have an account.

Jun 13th 2013 new
(quote) Angela-374523 said: In the Catholic Church, a marriage is dissolved only after divorce and annulment.
In the Catholic Church annulment and a dissolution of marriage apply in entirely different circumstances.

Dissolution is a process that terminates a valid marriage. This is possible only when at least one spouse is not a baptized Christian (and then only under very restricted circumstances) or if the marriage was never consummated. Because dissolutions are handled in Rome, not by the diocese, they can be very time-consuming and expensive. For this reason, even when a case appears to qualify for a dissolution the local tribunal will often investigate whether an annulment can be issued first.

An annulment, formally known as a decree of nullity, does not change the state of a marriage: it is a determination that a valid marriage never existed. (N.B. in general it is not correct to refer to a sacramental marriage here, as only marriages between two baptized Christians can be sacramental; however marriages involving non-baptized spouses may be valid).
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