WOW. What cool responses! How exciting!
Thank you to everyone who responded. All your responses were awesome. I really enjoyed that someone brought in the Angelic Doctor on this one. Too often St. Thomas Aquinas gets misrepresented on this one, as if modesty is primarily due to temperance. Modesty has to do with also CHARITY* (*love of God FIRST, and love of neighbor due to love your own love of God). Yes!
Yes it is neat to see that the fashion trends are going the way of being more feminine, and in that sense more modest, but what about stepping it up a notch and still remaining on trend? But am with Leyden too: it should be humble, as well, to give glory to God and not to self, so not to be a clothes glutten (as opposed to gluten ...sp?) and not be more like (no offense to Patti Fans) Patti LaBelle than, oh, say, Maria VonTrapp. lol (I was reachin', but you catch my drift.)
I bet that was the first time any one of you has ever heard those two references in a sentence.
OK, so I meant really 80s and 90s LaBelle.
Anywhoo... it is entirely possible to wear skirts tea length (below the knees), or even lengthen shorter skirts through various means, slip a cute shrug, cardi or small blazer over a short sleeve or even sleeveless dress. If it's a casual dress, there are even more options, like tops underneath. I've even seen that done in clever ways with sundresses! I think most dresses are not too modest, but fashion is fickle so why bend to it anyway? There's always enough room in fashion to make something your own and still be "on trend".
As for the hot summer months: Fashion is sooo diverse nowadays, that there are just too many options to make excuses. There are the gauze skirts (albeit, they require long slips, alla JC Penny's --- which has been one of only one of only two places I can find them), crinkle skirts, and my favorite, knock offs of California designer long skirts that will be cool in more ways than one for a long time. (Write to me here and I will give you some online stores that sell them.)
I used to agonize about the summer months a far as tops, but with the lighter fabrics, layering works, as long as they aren't see-through so much that you can see the skimpy top underneath. There are tricks to making everything work, all it takes is a little practice. Remember: Not all chiffon is created equal!
One mode of thought which is easy to remember, besides setting objective standards for yourself, is remembering what the concept of "clothing" is asking the question, "What is the intention of being "clothed?" To be clothed means to conceal, not to reveal. See how that works?
Ladies, if we really love the way God made us we want to be respected for that, and that means to remember the bigger picture, both temporally and spiritually for ourselves and our brothers, and yes, sisters (especially little girls who we could possibly scandalize, and make them get the wrong idea of themselves, the ideal and what they value of themselves in respect to the world's worldly view).
Guys, if you have a problem with modesty, especially with modesty in women, you don't have an appreciation for how God created us as spiritual beings. Our purpose for being here, having been created by God, isn't to merely do whatever pleases us, but it is to know, to love and to serve God. Even knowledge of God is connected to PURITY, which is protected by modesty. Love of God is shown by humility and putting HIM first, the our neighbor's welfare out of love of God (ask yourselves, "Am I my brother's (or sister's) keeper?"). And lastly, to serve God means not only not to offer scandal (and no, it doesn't matter if all the world is doing it, if it doesn't reflect God's holy will for us it is still wrong, and remember what our Lord said after he said, "Woe to him by whom scandal comes"), but serving God placing HIS rights above our comfort and disordered inclinations.