(quote) Kathy-99973 said: Here's a topic for another thread, many of us probably put widows and widowers on a pedestal. It's intimidating getting to know those who have had very long-term marriages that resulted in one death. So, be patient with us as we should be with you!
Kathy, I think you've hit on a topic that both Linda and I have encountered. As a widow, I can't tell you how many men have expressed to me (especially if they knew my late husband) that they just COULDN'T measure up to him, and thus felt uncomfortable asking for a date! YIKES!
We did have a great marriage, but neither of us were saints! We had our ups and downs, too. I wish more men would just take the time to see and find out who I AM NOW, not as the "dangling participle" of a long-ago marriage...
Linda, for you it hasn't been that long--you're still identified as part of that "couple". Give it time....Hopefully not as long as I've had to endure (14 years)!