This room is for supportive and informative discussion about divorce and/or the annulment process. All posters must have been previously divorced or annulled.
Saint Eugene De Mazenod is patron of dysfunctional families & Saint Fabiola obtained a divorce from her first husband prior to devoting her life to charitable works.
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I don't think anyone is in a position to take a swipe at you here. There is probably a lot more our Church can do to support people going through this process and to be fair your priest could have done more to support you initially (your ex sounds like a 'lovely' man...). That said, it is in the past and the annulment process is really a healing time. Many of us go through feelings of intense guilt, failure and sadness that go unrecognised in the body of the Church but through this process Our Lord picks us up, dusts us off and gives us the strength to go on.
The lay people on the Tribunal tend to be fairly spiritual people in my experience and they are not judging you or your ex but the marriage and whether or not it was sacramental - don't be scared of being too personal. Put as much you can remember into the questions and pray about each of them.
When I was interviewed for mine, the interviewer stopped recording from time to time and let me cry and explored some really tough things in which the secrets and memories that were buried deep inside came out. If I had worried about this beforehand those gems might have remained hidden, but they are the real truth of where my marriage was at. She was astonished but showed real humility and compassion towards me and it felt very much like going to the sacrament of reconciliation...
I am sure that those who have replied to you will keep you in their prayers and that Our Lord gives you the peace that you need and deserve. All the best!!