(quote) Marian-83994 said: Some of us are aware that our thoughts can determine how we feel emotionally and even physically. Some of us have learned to use thoughts to our advantage so that we develop managerial skills toward ourselves manage ourselves and through problem solving and reframing, instead of simply complaining or moaning on about life- in the meantime we "think differently" to get by....sometimes, when we can change anything immediately.................................................. Has anyone gained experience in this area in any way? Has anyone noticed that our thoughts affect our moods?
............................The above quote that opens this is from a current article from today on Yahoo Shine about stress...so I thought why not bring this up here and see if members have comments or ideas to share....
Our thoughts definitely affect our mood. My former spouse was a pessimist and most of the time in a fowl mood. I am an optimist (to a fault) and don't really know how to be in a bad mood. For example, he always "hated' his job; I always "loved' my job. His response was that since I always loved my job it must not be a "real" job and that i should get a "real" job. HE insisted that since he hated his job he had a "real" job and that since I loved my job I didn't have a "real' job
. He didn't understand that it wasn't about the job, it was that he "thought" he couldn't enjoy his job, therefore he was miserable at the job. This was probably a learned experience of his from childhood. His father would always say how much he hated his job as a mechanic in the military, but he never quit because he had no other way to support a nonworking wife and 4 kids. SO, my former spouse learned that in order for a job to be "real" you have to hate it. He equated "job" with "dislike". I had the opposite experience. My father loved his job. I equate "job" with "like", no matter what the job.
His negative attitudes towards his job affected his employer and his family to a great extent, as well as his physical and emotional well being. He suffers from a multitude of physical ailments, as well as mental/emotional disabilities as a result of his negative thoughts. It is all about mind over matter; just look to the saints that suffered persecution.