That said, I'm not making a broad commentary about women in general, but a particular demographic of women. I would submit that most of the women posting in these forums are far and away better exemplars of the faith than I am. Without going into particular detail, since this is the Internet, I have confessed many, many sins this week which I've committed in weakness. I am not attempting to aggrandize myself by drawing attention to a particularly unfaithful segment of the Catholic population.
That having been said, we are living in the post feminist age. Religions, particularly large hierarchically constituted institutions like the Catholic Church, are largely viewed through the blurry lens of radical feminism as a tool to oppress women, and we the apologists are guilty by association. Since most of us posting on this forum are devout Catholics, I probably don't need to get into a ton of background about just how nasty the 2012 campaign season got for practicing Catholics, but suffice it to say I think a few of us may remember the full page ad placed in the New York Times by the Freedom From Religion Foundation, in which the fiery denunciations of the Health and Human Services contraceptive mandate by the US Conference of Catholic Bishops were mischaracterized by the FFRF as assaults on "women's rights."
The March 9, 2012 FFRF ad, entitled "It's Time to Quit the Catholic Church" said such offensive slanders as "Its your moment of truth, Do you choose women and their rights, or Bishops and their wrongs? You are an enabler. And its got to stop. As a member of the flock of an avowedly antidemocratic Old Boys Club, isnt it time you vote with your feet? Please, exit en Mass?"
Now I can attest personally to the fact that there are multitudes of baptized, nominally Catholic women who are very sympathetic to this message, as nominal Catholic women have voted in droves for candidates and policies which have directly attacked the Catholic Church.
How does a man fraternally and lovingly correct these women without being dismissed as an agent of patriarchal oppression? I can't claim this trump card before a righteous Catholic woman who calls me out on my many sins. I have to grit my teeth and admit when I've done evil, but my interactions with nominal Catholic women have been colored by the constant accusations of using religion as a tool to oppress.
ME, impotent me, an oppressor. I'm unemployed and going to school full time, at a Jesuit university where I'm subjected day-in and day-out to attacks on my faith by members of anti-Catholic groups who enjoy official recognition from the timid administration. I'm an agent of the Old Boys Club. It would be hilarious if it wasn't so sad.
At what point do I throw up my hands and heed Jesus' command to not "throw pearls before swine?" At what point do I continue to evangelize this group? Some of my greatest accomplishments in life have been when I was sternly scolded and told to shape up. The best confessor is a tough one like Padre Pio. I think where I've made a lot mistakes in trying to evangelize nominal Catholic women in assuming women like blunt honesty. But today i was told that blunt honesty is condescending to women.
Ok my tangent is over. This is a group I would like to be saved. How should we approach this?