(quote) Pamela-880383 said: The short answer to that is that only you and God know. None of us have the ability to judge your soul, which is a good thing. But as long as you die in a state of grace, you will go to Heaven. The only way to not be in a state of grace is to commit a mortal sin.
If you're not familiar with it, there are three conditions that must be met for a sin to be mortal.
1) It must be grave matter. In general, for instance, it would not be grave to take a penny.
2) You must know it is a grave sin. You cannot accidentally commit a mortal sin. God doesn't smite people down in ignorance.
3) You must choose to do the sin of your own free will. No one can force you to lose your salvation. If you rob a bank because someone has your family held at gunpoint and will shoot them if you don't, it's probably not your mortal sin.
If any one of these things aren't true, the sin is probably venial. I say probably because again, in the end God is your judge and only He and you know all of the circumstances that occurred. This is where a good spiritual director and/or confessor comes into play and if you don't have one, I highly recommend you get one. Your diocese should have a list of spiritual directors at their office who would be happy to talk south you and help guide you through your spiritual journey. I know it was really helpful for me.
God gave us priests and the sacrament of confession because He wants us to be in Heaven with Him. As long as we avail ourselves of that sacrament regularly, I think we have little to fear of not being in Heaven in the end. For me, I have a certain sense of confidence in my salvation not because I am so good, because I'm not, but because I'm so sorry and my God is so forgiving. I know that He wants me as long as I want Him, so I just keep striving to want to want Him more because that's about the best I can hope for. I know He's not going to cast me aside, so I just have to make sure that I keep choosing Him, even when I stumble and fall sometimes.
Pamela, thank you for that answer. I guess. like Kenny, am always afraid of the thoughts of sin; ie. lust in your heart, or anger in your heart. Let's just say when I die I hope there are no pretty nurses on duty.