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I wanted to get some opinions about dating coworkers. My philosophy has always been, no. It can get complicated and weird if things don't work out. It can also be difficult for team members to adjust to the happy couple. Reputations can suffer.
Example: there is a couple (neither is Catholic) where I work who were married to other people when they met. Um, they met here and long (and sordid) story short...they are now divorced from their former spouses and living together. Awkward for many folk, especially her former sister-in-law who also works here. It's been a year now and I think that has helped ease some initial tensions. (However, fun fact: we keep a company Facebook page and you can see them with their former spouses at company events!)
They are both excellent professionals but it seems that, with few exceptions, this is all anyone can see when they think of them.
Conversely, there are several happily married couples here! I was very surprised to see that. Some met here, others elsewhere and then came to work here. The company has no policy prohibiting this and in fact definitely seems to encourage people to fraternize (not necessarily meaning to date but to develop relationships). Personally I've developed some great friendships already!
In any case, I am new to the area, and as I have begun to move in my environment and Catholic circles, talk about my faith at work etc. I have met some Christians and Catholics (in different stages of their faith) at work. There are a couple of gentlemen here who have circled so to speak but held back as I have mentioned my personal "don't date at work" philosophy.
What do you think? Am I missing opportunities? Or should I follow my philosophy and prevent, at the very least, awkward elevator moments later**?
**Seriously, it's like the darn thing can't move slow enough when you are trapped in an uncomfortable situation.
Since my co-workers are mostly women and gay men- NO!!!
But my philosophy on dating a coworker is if you know him (or her) very well and knew you would be compatible, I would definitely take a chance on love. I wouldn't pass up an opportunity. I could always find another job...but a good man...not so easy.
That said, I have seen fully-Catholic individuals meet, date, and marry while working for the same company. They had the advantage of a VERY strong (i.e., fully Catholic) moral framework, so they knew the appropriate way to conduct themselves, the appropriate dating boundaries, etc.
And having worked together for some time, they had the additional advantage of extended observation of each other in close quarters. They were able to assure themselves that latent problems would not be an issue before they began dating.
I am a nurse and married my patient. As you can see I am on CM, that didn't end well and it began with the dynamics not the hypodermics! It is something about the need to nurture but also the dependency.
Just my two cents....
I have worked at other places and I also would not work and date at the same place.
I wanted to date my student....
[close to my age as I was young once...... believe it or not].....
it never happened but it was tempting as he would be gone
in four weeks so the coworker thingie wouldn't apply