Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.
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I really would like to meet someone on this site. I can move if a relationship develops. It would be nice if even one man on this site showed genuine interest in me as a potential match. What a delight it would be to find such a message!
Honestly,,,someone said a month or so ago,,,there are better chances finding love at the Supermarket....They may be correct...
I'll meet you by the lettuce and cucumbers...
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As for catholic sites, I have tried catholicsingles.com and that site is not nearly as good as this one. There is also avemariasingles.com, which is a good site for very traditional catholics, but there are few profiles and in my experience, many of the people on there can be very judgmental.
This site has worked out for me the best - even though I have been single for quite sometime. For starters, why complain about the forums? Are there people on here just for that? Maybe a few but so what? If they get satisfaction from the forums, what is so bad about that? But I imagine since you have to pay for a membership, the vast majority of people here on this site for purposes of dating. Sure, are there some people who are more serious about it than others? Yes, of course, but how is that different from the real world as a whole?
I think some people unfortunately don't look at the big picture. You only have to get it right once. Sure, rejection is never fun and dating can be a painfully arduous, frustrating experience, but patience is a virtue. You can't expect to meet the one for you overnight. Furthermore, no one should put down those who have been on this for quite sometime. They are likely still searching for the one....
From my experience, I have been quite satisfied with the "women's only forum" (pinkie's room). As far as meeting a potential mate on CM, I never even considered it a possibility, so I have not been disappointed by that aspect of CM. I did enjoy my time with fellow CMer's this past spring and hope to join a group again in California next week. Again, I have no expectations (other than everyone there be respectful of one another) so I will not be disappointed, unless I observe disrespect.
I have been disappointed with the lack of respect in the general CM forums, especially towards CM moderators (from male CM members). The fact that CM allows such blatant disrespect is the reason I will not renew my membership. In my frustration I have lashed out at male CM members because I do not see CM moderators taking any corrective measures to stop this behavior.
Then, we can all be recovering Catholics, like Peter (verse 31): sift, fail, recover.
I have been on here for a while, and sometimes the disrespectful behaviours do flare up, and I am not entirely sure what causes it - a mix of personality conflicts, add some sleep-deprived cranky folks, frustration from others, and things blow up. There is only so much that Moderators can do, as people are expected to be old enough to know better in most cases. If Moderators do step in, they get criticized too. It's sort of like the police officer on a street corner when a fight breaks out who takes criticism for not doing enough. What are people doing on the street corner fighting anyway? As for disrespectful behavior online, just go read some of the comments youtube or any site that has celebrity news. People say just about anything hiding behind their keyboard.
I didn't join CM to be a Moderator, I joined CM to find a spouse. I haven't found one. Why am here? Have you seen some of the secular dating sites? I also have had a hard time connecting with other Catholics living in a city where I did not grow up. At least on here, people know that today is a feast day. Have a pleasant evening everyone.