(quote) Melissa-537851 said: ...If I message someone, I am not proposing marriage, for goodness sake. I am just saying, "Hey, let's talk. Let's be friends." So, likewise, if someone rebukes my messages....to me it is like saying that I am not even worth it to be friends with. And, my God, if you are not even worthy to be someone's friend, much less anything else....what is the point of being here?
Okay, I am going to get a ton of flack for this but here it is:
Why, as a woman of high value (which your beautiful profile clearly reflects), are you doing any initiating?
Ladies, WE are the prize here!
It is just my opinion and experience that if you represent yourself honestly in your profile, someone matching your interests is going to find you attractive and interesting. Then, if he has courage (and we all want a man with courage), he
will take the next step and initiate contact with you. At that point, YOU can decide if the man that is showing interest is "worthy".
I say "worthy" because we, as women, must be very selective ~ Too many of our sisters are abused, or in some way hurting due to poor choices in men. Yes, this takes longer. Yes, it takes patience, but a BIG YES in that when that one man that "gets" you and is naturally attracted to you comes along, it is soooo worth the wait!
I can see the hate mail coming, but I just wanted to share that in my opinion, this is how it works best for me, not only on a dating site, but in the real world.
One more thing I want to add: As for "friends" I really think that is not being totally honest with our intentions. Speaking for myself, I have a ton of friends and did not join a DATING site to meet more. I am not here to make another buddy. Following that logic, when you reach out to a man on the pretext of "friendship" do you think it possible that he loses interest in you immediately as he is here to seek and find a girlfriend?