(quote) Zachary-1017519 said: All right, I'll jump in here to offer my own views on things. A few quick hits on where I'm coming from:
A. I'm in the process of converting. Like, towards the beginning. My understanding of things is limited at best as it comes to the faith.
B. But I have been online dating at other sites before. I've only just (literally just an hour ago) paid for this one. Simply because it's my birthday, one, and I figure dating with faith first is a better option than anything else. At the very least I won't have to discuss my sexual preferences (hint: none, as I'm a virgin and I've only broadcasted that EVERYWHERE on your dating site and you still don't get it ... but that's a tangent for another day).
C. Haven't had much luck at all in the dating realm for years so anything I say should be taken with a huge grain of salt.
Okay, all that out of the way, my thoughts on this particular subject:
Is it possible to be attracted from a profile? For me, the answer is yes. It's been my experience that the people I interact with online I get along with just as well offline most of the time. A profile, especially on a dating site like this, is designed to get viewed. So, people upload pretty pictures and deck out their profiles with some good prose (if they want to).
I'm a guy, so we're wired visually, and if there's a pretty face there, I'll click. Being on this site makes me not dread the faith based aspect of this (because it's virtually guaranteed to match in the big areas), but there are certain details in the profile that I look at. One, the writing. Is it competent? You don't have to be a writing maestro, but being decent in text is a must for me. Perhaps the arrogance of youth.
Two, are you interesting/different? I've viewed a lot of profiles that all just run together on other sites because they gals there seem to be all into the same stuff. Having something that stands out individually is a plus and shows effort, I think.
That's all I got. I think part of the hazard of online dating is just clicking through tons of profiles and finding nothing but the same stuff. I've done plenty of that. Would face to face meetings be better? Maybe for some, but I'm horribly awkward face to face without some groundwork, a bit of pretext. I just tend to freeze. My thoughts.
Great thoughts, Zachary! Welcome to Catholic Match, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!