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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

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Oct 12th 2013 new
(quote) Kathy-99973 said: Ana dear, if I didn't include Miami in my matches, it would truly be

But I do understand, quality over quantity.

PS - You'd be surprised how many Miamians barely know where the Keys are!
Kathy, you have matches from Miami?? I don't!

P.S. I am not surprised. laughing
Oct 13th 2013 new
Interesting how the Internet is a lifesaver for small town Catholics? Or, for those who have few practicing Catholics nearby. It is an amazing miracle to me still, to wake up to a cup of coffee, another 75 degree sunny day in paradise, and visit with a fellow believer in China.
Oct 13th 2013 new
"So, anyway, it's more important to watch what a man does (watch his feet), than what he says. Most of us will take action over pretty words any day!"

What if he has Hobbit feet?
laughing Which, has a double meaning...unsightly...but also fearfully domesticated. On this measure, I'd suggest most ladies, rightly so, have Hobbit feet. Not unsightly, but firmly rooted in their daily duties, family and friends.

But I agree with you. I've gotten there too, where I stopped listening until I saw "10 toes planted firmly outside the door."
Oct 13th 2013 new
Yes you can be attracted to somebody's profile and feel that they are the one for you and I have felt that way before with some women on here. But it is all for nothing if they are not willing to contact you back and meet you halfway

Mark
Oct 13th 2013 new
Thank you Kathy Common sense Stop typing start meeting or stop typing. Cars and planes and buses make getting together easy.
Oct 13th 2013 new
(quote) David-174079 said: "So, anyway, it's more important to watch what a man does (watch his feet), than what he says. Most of us will take action over pretty words any day!"

What if he has Hobbit feet?
Which, has a double meaning...unsightly...but also fearfully domesticated. On this measure, I'd suggest most ladies, rightly so, have Hobbit feet. Not unsightly, but firmly rooted in their daily duties, family and friends.

But I agree with you. I've gotten there too, where I stopped listening until I saw "10 toes planted firmly outside the door."
Or better yet, one foot in the door.
Oct 13th 2013 new
I'll settle for nine toes.... faint
Oct 13th 2013 new
All right, I'll jump in here to offer my own views on things. A few quick hits on where I'm coming from:

A. I'm in the process of converting. Like, towards the beginning. My understanding of things is limited at best as it comes to the faith.
B. But I have been online dating at other sites before. I've only just (literally just an hour ago) paid for this one. Simply because it's my birthday, one, and I figure dating with faith first is a better option than anything else. At the very least I won't have to discuss my sexual preferences (hint: none, as I'm a virgin and I've only broadcasted that EVERYWHERE on your dating site and you still don't get it ... but that's a tangent for another day).
C. Haven't had much luck at all in the dating realm for years so anything I say should be taken with a huge grain of salt.


Okay, all that out of the way, my thoughts on this particular subject:

Is it possible to be attracted from a profile? For me, the answer is yes. It's been my experience that the people I interact with online I get along with just as well offline most of the time. A profile, especially on a dating site like this, is designed to get viewed. So, people upload pretty pictures and deck out their profiles with some good prose (if they want to).

I'm a guy, so we're wired visually, and if there's a pretty face there, I'll click. Being on this site makes me not dread the faith based aspect of this (because it's virtually guaranteed to match in the big areas), but there are certain details in the profile that I look at. One, the writing. Is it competent? You don't have to be a writing maestro, but being decent in text is a must for me. Perhaps the arrogance of youth.

Two, are you interesting/different? I've viewed a lot of profiles that all just run together on other sites because they gals there seem to be all into the same stuff. Having something that stands out individually is a plus and shows effort, I think.

That's all I got. I think part of the hazard of online dating is just clicking through tons of profiles and finding nothing but the same stuff. I've done plenty of that. Would face to face meetings be better? Maybe for some, but I'm horribly awkward face to face without some groundwork, a bit of pretext. I just tend to freeze. My thoughts.
Oct 13th 2013 new
(quote) Zachary-1017519 said: All right, I'll jump in here to offer my own views on things. A few quick hits on where I'm coming from:

A. I'm in the process of converting. Like, towards the beginning. My understanding of things is limited at best as it comes to the faith.
B. But I have been online dating at other sites before. I've only just (literally just an hour ago) paid for this one. Simply because it's my birthday, one, and I figure dating with faith first is a better option than anything else. At the very least I won't have to discuss my sexual preferences (hint: none, as I'm a virgin and I've only broadcasted that EVERYWHERE on your dating site and you still don't get it ... but that's a tangent for another day).
C. Haven't had much luck at all in the dating realm for years so anything I say should be taken with a huge grain of salt.


Okay, all that out of the way, my thoughts on this particular subject:

Is it possible to be attracted from a profile? For me, the answer is yes. It's been my experience that the people I interact with online I get along with just as well offline most of the time. A profile, especially on a dating site like this, is designed to get viewed. So, people upload pretty pictures and deck out their profiles with some good prose (if they want to).

I'm a guy, so we're wired visually, and if there's a pretty face there, I'll click. Being on this site makes me not dread the faith based aspect of this (because it's virtually guaranteed to match in the big areas), but there are certain details in the profile that I look at. One, the writing. Is it competent? You don't have to be a writing maestro, but being decent in text is a must for me. Perhaps the arrogance of youth.

Two, are you interesting/different? I've viewed a lot of profiles that all just run together on other sites because they gals there seem to be all into the same stuff. Having something that stands out individually is a plus and shows effort, I think.

That's all I got. I think part of the hazard of online dating is just clicking through tons of profiles and finding nothing but the same stuff. I've done plenty of that. Would face to face meetings be better? Maybe for some, but I'm horribly awkward face to face without some groundwork, a bit of pretext. I just tend to freeze. My thoughts.
Great thoughts, Zachary! Welcome to Catholic Match, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Happy Birthday! Happy Birthday!
Oct 13th 2013 new
(quote) David-174079 said: Hi again, Kristen,

This seems like a good context to recycle the famous JPII quote:

There is no dignity when the human dimension is eliminated from the person. In short, the problem with pornography is not that it shows too much of the person, but that it shows far too little.
― John Paul II

Is this what you are intuiting? That a person's human dimension can be diminished by the Internet medium? One's humanity is not eliminated, but I do feel objectification and isolation of parts (face, words) from the whole person can distort reality. On the other hand, I think CM, unlike a bar scene, can serve to magnify the beauty of the mind, heart and soul. Giving truly intelligent, morally good, and inwardly beautiful a safe place to shine!







I have been waiting for someone, anyone? to address David's post. I believe that CM is unfortunately too similar to pornography because the focus is still on the "visual", even WITH the forums and honest? profiles and, as JPII stated, it eliminates the human dimension and leaves a person with little dignity. Nothing, not even skype, can take the place of face to face interaction with an opportunity to observe behaviors in action. Nothing will ever take the place of REAL humans meeting other REAL humans.
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