nd embracing God instead of our own will. So Cm ober all these years..has been the one place in dating that has taught me this about marriage and finding my spouse. If God wants it...it will happen..trust Him...work with Him in prayer, mass, and the cross!! Anything you learned here you care to share?
I have heard many folks say they waited a LOT longer than they ever imagined they would have to wait - they became frustrated, disillusioned, even tried to force a relationship to work when there were solid differences that could not be overcome, or when their feelings were not reciprocated. NOW that they are in a good solid relationship or marriage - they SEE that God's timing was perfect. That they simply were not ready to meet that special someone and give the very best part of themselves to making it work AT THE TIME they THOUGHT they'd been ready. In hindsite ( yeah, I know, it irritates me too ) they NOW see they still had work to do on themselves first. They had to find a happy life within themselves with God's love - apart from needing another person to 'make' it so. They needed to live their life to the fullest, keeping their heart and eyes open for any sign God gave to direct their life how HE knew it should unfold. That once they stopped focusing on being unhappy BECAUSE they were alone - once they found happiness within themselves - that they radiated God's love and became more attractive, more welcoming, more of a draw to other singles. People tend to flock to happy people - those that make you feel good when you are with them. So their perfect 'one' became apparent in His time.
I do believe that's how it is. I think there are several chances for us to find happiness with someone - but that our human nature puts up roadblocks and excuses WAAYYYYYY too much. We 'reason' ourselves right out of even trying. We talk ourselves OUT of even contacting folks, OUT of meeting them - for a variety of reasons. We take it way too seriously at first - scaring folks off. We self sabotage by trying too hard, too fast. I guess the main lesson I've learned from my friends in successful relationships is.....just be yourself, don't rush things, don't talk your self in OR out of anything. Keep it real, keep communication open and honest - and if it is meant to be, it will happen. In the meantime - enjoy every day God gives you on this earth. Enjoy each friend He sends your way. Enjoy all the beauty around us. And step up and lend a hand, help another person who needs it - whether it is a hug, a kind word, a hand with a project, whatever. Just get out of our own pity parties and focus on our blessings.
And I'm assuming it does not even need to be said, but continue to PRAY PRAY PRAY!
Mary offered her usual wonderful post full of love, knowledge and wisdom. I could not add anything further other than to ensure you are first the right person before you go searching for the right person. Make sure your personal "house" in in order.
Some feel that life is getting away due to their age. So, they feel they have to bend or purposely overlook issues that are important to a successful marriage. No matter - keep focused, keep praying to the Lord and don't expect Him to knock at your door saying here is he or she. Take your time and put your age out of your mind. As the old saying goes, God helps those who help themselves.
Just my opinion.
God bless you and all those actively seeking to find the "right spouse".