I just read somewhere that it is holy for us to give the offender the benefit of the doubt, to make excuses for their behavior--just as sometimes we make excuses for our own. We don't know why the person is being mean; however, most of the time, it's coming from a very limited place they're in at the time. Had their souls been more open, they would most likely not act that way or say what they did. We can experience his meanness, but we don't have to let it affect us--we can just let it pass through. I guess it's our being stronger in God's Love, and having compassion for the ignorant, since in other ways and at other times, it is we who are the ignorant ones.