(quote) Larry-938763 said: This is a first post for me, and please note I am not condemning or judging anyone. I am very interested in a woman's position on church teaching, as are most women about a mans'. Now what I don't understand: A woman says she agrees with most teachings. She has accepted all but contraception. She has already said she agrees with papal infallibility, but rejects the encyclical Casti Connubii (Pius XI) which clearly says NO to contraception. This is not something grey, but clearly defined and infallible. Please help me to see the logic, cuz the % of selective rejection is beyond my comprehension. These are college women and I am just a high school grad. Remember, this is not me judging anyone, I clearly do not understand!
There are various reasons why people respond "No" to the faith questions, especially those on per-marital sex and contraception. For the contraception question, common reasons given are (a) because they feel it is OK to use hormonal contraceptives to treat medical problems; (b) they wouldn't use them, but they don't feel it is right to dictate to others; and (c) contraceptives should be an option when there is a maternal medical condition that would make pregnancy life-threatening.
Note that (a) is permitted by Church teaching as long as the person is not sexually active while receiving the treatment; while (b) and (c) are contrary to Church teaching, they are less likely to give rise to a conflict in a given relationship than a situation where one would feel inclined to use contraceptives herself.
Because of the wide range of reasons a given person might answer a specific question "No" as well as the possibility of converting one who disagrees with the teaching, even broadly, I think that when one encounters another person they are otherwise interested in, they treat the answers to the faith questions as yellow flags rather than red flags and engage the person in a discussion about the issues at the appropriate time (N.B. I am NOT suggesting that challenging them on their responses in an initial contact -- something that does happen, and more often than not has a result that is quite opposite that which was desired).