In Catholic Match most of the complaints about how men are deficient in the dating game are claims that they are not active enough. Such failures to act include not initiating communication, not replying to contacts, not asking for a phone number and so on. To say the same thing from a different angle, the problem is an absence, or near absence, of action.
Can there also be failures due to an undeveloped passive dimension even in men who show much strength in the active facets of socializing? The complaint by women that, "Men don't listen", might be a prime example where the problem is not a faliure by men to be active, but an inability to be passive where that sort of non-activity is needed.
Some people may not like the word, "passive", and say that the correct word in this context is, "receptive". Certainly men will not have the deepest kind of passivity characteristic of inaimate objects such as autumn leaves blown about by the winds only to return to motionlessness when the air currents subside. In men the "passive" things may lie inactively until stirred by a woman, but once stirred they become active in their own right. The thing to note here is that, unless men can have a moment of passivity, the woman can't get inside to lift men's inactive potentialities into life.
As I see it, the main point is that men have to be able to be moved by the woman's voice, tones and other aspects of her personal presence in such a way that she senses that she has moved them even if her ignition causes things previously dormant quickly to become active in men.
Recommending both making passes and being passive with lasses,