(quote) Susan-857876 said: now don't get me wrong, because I am in absolutely no hurry to marry
and have seen the term ''mercy date'' bandied around and it ain't pretty.
Why is there such an atmosphere of keeping one's distance and not venturing out as this is a dating site?
Interesting question! I have a few thoughts about it...
First, I hope in the 40+ age group, that people know themselves and know what they are looking for. They are probably not looking to casually date a lot of people. Perhaps that is one reason?
Second, while I am a member on here, I also belong to match.com. These experiences are completely opposite!! I get a lot of interest on match, but it is *ahem* not the kind I was looking for.
I have been shocked to disbelieving laughter by some of the messages I've received on there. I rarely respond to anyone on there, and those I did were very much had the same "priorities" as the others did once I met them in person! The point being, if you have to choose between that and careful hesitation, I'd say this is a lot better!
Third, I think the challenge is that people on here want to get to know the person. I think the Forums are a wonderful asset for making yourself known. Keep posting!
During those times that I've been disappointed on CM, I usually take the opportunity to update my profile and make sure it conveys who I am. In our media saturated world, people are conditioned to responding to attractive advertising. Put some fun & creative interview questions on there! Add a fun season profile picture!
Finally, even though I don't receive as many contacts on CM, the men whom I've had the pleasure of corresponding and talking with are the cream of the crop! I am definitely impressed with the quality, and have no problem sacrificing quantity in this regard!