(quote) Barbara-863769 said: CM'ers---here is what prompted this quesiton:
I was her 'commadre', which in her Spanish culture is a unique bond between me, mother of the child and she, his Godmother. After many hard years of singleness with children following divorce...she had met the man of her dreams...a kind gentle man who treated her like a precious gem. He had battled and conquered serious cancer, and he was in remission...healthy for now, but they knew he had a very shortened life expectancy...He wanted her to be his wife...before God. He wanted her to have his name. He respected her completely which she had never known from her first husband, and he longed to make her his....She valued him, appreciated his love, and never wanted to take advantage of him."Barbara, Please tell me dear friend over so many years, at least 20 years, no?, What do you think? I am afraid..."
End Story:They married, and were so happy! She called me when her man went home to heaven a short 9 months later.
That is a really beautiful story, Barbara!
Every woman desires to be truly cherished. I certainly think it is worth it - she will have these beautiful memories of being cherished and valued by this man and I'm sure her life has changed because of it. Yes, increasing her sorrow, but also her JOY.