I have 15 and 17 year old boys both of whom have beautiful hearts. They were old enough to be keenly aware of the deterioration of their parents' marriage and to watch how each of us has lived during the marriage and afterwards.
I believe that I am a good role model in this arena but I am not their father...
I have purchased the Theology of the Body for Teens books, workbooks and DVDs. I gave them to the three of us for Christmas last year and announced that no one was dating until they understood this awesome stuff. The boys were quite uncomfortable with the discussion aspects. I did explain to them that no one taught me the beauty of this until after I was well into my twenties and that I would have made different choices in my life had I understood it. I told them that as uncomfortable as they or I might become that it was important for them to have this knowledge.
I then purchased and watched as a family- including their 11 year old sister- "Romance without Regret" which was very good - but not everything they need to understand. I have modified the mandate about the TOB for Teens to watching the videos together and we have picked up where we left off.
I, of course, pray for them and for myself...
I really want to give them a foundation that includes a deep appreciation of the gift of sexuality and a joy in whatever they may be called to in life so that they can live a life giving chastity not a repressed form or the kind of promiscuous life that is so normal these days
So how does one raise chaste, joyful men who can seek the will of God for them and feel comfortable in their relationships with their parents, friends, dates and eventually wives?