Maybe this has been discussed on these forums, maybe not. As my subject header indicates, I would like to start a discussion and maybe create some awareness about a common (maybe not so common?) courtesy. I've been on and off this website for a few years now and I've messaged women and have been messaged. When I see a profile I like I examine it thoroughly and come back with a carefully crafted response that tries to open up dialogue about similar interests and things about the lady that I'm more curious about. Sometimes I get a response...many times I don't. I'm wondering if this happens often with other people--because it's such a put off to tell be quite frank. This goes for men as well as women. When someone give you a message, they took time out of their probably busy day to look at your profile and express interest in you. That alone is flattering, even if you are not interested back.
In the messages that I've sent, I've had one woman (yes, only one) who wasn't interested send me back a message telling me that we are incompatible and gave me a reason why. I greatly respected that. In turn, I try to do this with others. This I believe should be common courtesy. I also believe this should extend over time during a correspondence--if you think it won't work after some messaging, say so. Don't leave the other person hanging.
Now I realize there are some reasons why some people don't respond back right away. Lives get busy--especially around the holidays. If that is so, maybe a little note saying something to the effect that you saw their profile and that you'll write back soon--or not. I also realize that some messages are a little, shall we say, uncouth and tend to put people off. It's arguable that those responses don't warrant a response.
But enough out of me. I want to hear what others think about this.