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I found this great article that won't cost you anything! Let's all make changes for a better US and a better 2014! Read on...........

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you. rolling eyes


As Maria Robinson once said, Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, theyll make room for you. You shouldnt have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, its not the people that stand by your side when youre at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when youre at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. Face them head on. No, it wont be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We arent supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. Thats not how were made. In fact, were made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because thats the whole purpose of living to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you cant lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone youre not. One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world thats trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Dont change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. You cant start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. If youre not happy with who you are on the inside, you wont be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
  11. Stop being idle. Dont think too much or youll create a problem that wasnt even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You cant make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking youre not ready. Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we wont feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships must be chosen wisely. Its better to be alone than to be in bad company. Theres no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when youre ready, not when youre lonely.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didnt work. In life youll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. Dont worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. Jealousy is the art of counting someone elses blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: Whats something I have that everyone wants?
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. Lifes curveballs are thrown for a reason to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. Youll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. Dont live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, What you did to me is okay. It is saying, Im not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever. Forgiveness is the answer let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, its for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. Your friends dont need it and your enemies wont believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. The time to take a deep breath is when you dont have time for it. If you keep doing what youre doing, youll keep getting what youre getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. The real world doesnt reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Dont take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isnt. Its okay to fall apart for a little while. You dont always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldnt be concerned with what other people are thinking either cry if you need to its healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what youre going through, you deny responsibility you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: Will this matter in one years time? Three years? Five years? If not, then its not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you dont want to happen. Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, youll often find that youre right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what youre missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.



Jan 03 new
that's quite a mouthful
Jan 03 new
Thanks for sharing this. For me in 2014: I will finish school; become gainfully employed in my new field; and receive my tribunal's decision. Definitive changes to come this year! Also, I began reading Jason and Crystalina Evert's book "How to Find a Soulmate without Losing Your Soul"... just in case :)
Jan 04 new
(quote) Nina-927863 said: Thanks for sharing this. For me in 2014: I will finish school; become gainfully employed in my new field; and receive my tribunal's decision. Definitive changes to come this year! Also, I began reading Jason and Crystalina Evert's book "How to Find a Soulmate without Losing Your Soul"... just in case :)
Hello Nina,

I am in a concert hall waiting for Andrea Bocelli to start in a few minutes. I am sitting with a group of couples from my church who invited me, fun! So I thought while waiting a few minutes, I'd get on line while everyone is busy chatting. Congratulations on your new field of employment! I wish you the best and that it touches many lives that come your way! Thank you so much for giving feedback on your new endeavors for 2014.

Many blessings from our Lord,
Sharon
Jan 04 new
(quote) Susan-857876 said: that's quite a mouthful
Hello Susan,

I think it's more of a brainful, lol. Okay, have to run....at a concert waiting for it to start.

blessings susan for a fabulous peaceful year,
Sharon
Jan 07 new
1) Finding some way to sell my house and go back to renting.
2) Another skydive if possible I loved it the first time. Would only ever do Tandam though my adventurous streak has a limit.
4) Hope to make it back to Colorado sometime this year
3) Would like to travel to the Grand Canyon sometime and Victoria Falls.

Jan 07 new
(quote) Ann-69118 said: 1) Finding some way to sell my house and go back to renting.
2) Another skydive if possible I loved it the first time. Would only ever do Tandam though my adventurous streak has a limit.
4) Hope to make it back to Colorado sometime this year
3) Would like to travel to the Grand Canyon sometime and Victoria Falls.

Hello Ann,

I so wished I lived near you. I use to do interior designing and staging of homes. I would have loved to have helped you to get the job done! It's so funny, I'm in the same situation where I purchased a new home a year ago, now getting ready to sell and not sure if I want to rent or buy? I will pray for you in hoped that God will direct your path in the desires of your heart. As far as sky diving, I have that on my bucket list, I cannot imagine the thrill and fear of doing that. Kudos to you for doing it the first time. I'd say you could definitely help me in that area, lol.

blessings for an incredible 2014 peaceful year that brings you and your family closer to Christ!
Sharon

Jan 08 new
I can't understand the "wanting to sell my house".. and rent? but i'm sure there's a good reason for it. As much of a pain in the butt owning a home is...especially here in Fl.. i can't imagine a better feeling than pulling up in your own driveway or enjoying a nicely manicured lawn. biggrin

Anyway...sorry for the Sidebar.. although finishing my front yard project is on my list..it's not on my "bucket list".. what is...
is possibly rafting the Grand Canyon sometime over the summer, with maybe a group of friends..or...
wink
Jan 08 new
(quote) Dave-146273 said: I can't understand the "wanting to sell my house".. and rent? but i'm sure there's a good reason for it. As much of a pain in the butt owning a home is...especially here in Fl.. i can't imagine a better feeling than pulling up in your own driveway or enjoying a nicely manicured lawn.

Anyway...sorry for the Sidebar.. although finishing my front yard project is on my list..it's not on my "bucket list".. what is...
is possibly rafting the Grand Canyon sometime over the summer, with maybe a group of friends..or...

Hi Dave,

I've always seen videos on people who rafts the grand canyon and have to say kudos to you for wanting to do so. I'll tell you what, lol, I would be the one on the side lines watching that. Now I'd venture to say I'd be game in jumping out of an airplane, that would be fun, scary and fearful all rolled into one. However, rafting really scares me to get thrown out and never to come up for air. I wish you the best with your friends in doing so, and hey, if you need a cheer leading on the side lines cheering you on.....I will show up with my pom poms, haha.

Well thought I'd make this msg light and airy and hope it put a smile on your face dave.

Blessings for God's good grace and peace this new year,
Sharon
Jan 09 new
If you get "thrown out".. SWIM like the dickens!! laughing laughing laughing
here's hoping i can make that trip happen beer
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