If you search the Internet for ["discerning God's will"] you will get many hits; Be careful, as much of this is just personal opinion, and anyone can create a blog and publish anything they want for free. One reason God gives us the canonized saints through the Church is so we have role models to follow in areas such as this; it is best to seek out and follow the advice of the saints.
Your understanding of free will seems to be very seriously in error. God gave us free will so that we can decide to accept His will or reject it. However, free will is not free license to do as we please. If we do not follow our consciences -- properly formed consciences -- then there will be consequences. God does indeed expect us to actively seek out His will: through study, prayer, and sacrifice. Because of the effects of original sin, God's will may not be obvious, and sometimes it can be a struggle to discern, especially when we are not spiritually prepared to do so. We can't expect to just wake up one day ans see the truth: more often than not, such "revelations" are the work of the angels of darkness attempting to use our weaknesses to lead us astray.
God always answers our prayers, just not necessarily in the way we expect: the answer may be "yes"; or it may be "no, but here is something better" (although often we may not think it is better), or "not now". Unfortunately, all too often we use the misguided humanistic notion of free will to give lip service to God then ignore Him and go off on our own when the answer we get is not the one we want. Some decisions must be made at a specific point in time, but many do not -- we can wait; the problem is we don't want to.
Can I jump in?
I dont think this post will get a lot of input, because of where its hiding, so want to offer my thoughts. So it bugs Roselle, that her friend (maybe even possible boyfriend), uses the phrase if God wills it or if its Gods will, in their conversations.
Maybe their conversations are about should we meet? Or will I get this job? Or should I have the baked potato or mashed potato. And his comment always is if God wills it. Of course, that would annoy a smart, well educated, industrious person like Roselle, who seems to be stating that the person themself, can will their own actions. That a person shouldnt just wait around, for God to make it known or obvious for them to do something or another, with a sign. ((Im OK with signs. But I once heard a priest say, if you want something and forge ahead with doing it and it works out, then the fact that you got what you wanted, IS THE SIGN from God. ((Hindsight.))
In her second post:
Things happen as consequences, resulting from wrong decisions, laziness or risky behavior on my part or by another person. See God is no part of evil doing...He will never allow it....but we (man) do let evil come to us. We are part of everything that happens to us. God gave us intelligence to know and think what is right...He gave us the body to be able to do what we need to do and be his instrument...He gave us free will to choose and decide... So for my friend who cannot decide for himself, who depends on God's sign, who is lazy to do actions to achieve his dreams, and who thinks by doing so he becomes holy....better think twice...
Im gathering that she does understand that Catholic perspective of free will and personal responsibility. That evil is the absence of good. That God is all good and God doesnt will evil, He permits it. That evil exists and that we humans, freely choose to do evil or good. Her friend, not making decisions for himself, may be mistakenly thinking hes doing the right thing, by simply doing nothing, without an obvious or miraculous sign from God and the statement if its Gods Will. Its an interesting observation by Roselle. Id be inclined to concur with her. It would be irritating to hear that sort of comment when instead, the fellow could risk making a decision on his own.
It can be rather difficult to see The Will of God. Im still trying too, most days. Yet I keep forging ahead. And if it works out, then low and behold, it was the will of God.
Are rarely catastrophes
But "no dangling modifiers"
Is something God requires.
(I think the missing apostrophes was due to my using a Pages document to pre-write one of my posts. Which I haven't done before. I was simply using 'Pages' on my Mac, to restore my faith in spell check. Apparently, CM's spell check evades me sometimes on here.)