(quote) Barbara-863769 said: Annie,
If you are having trouble with nice gentlemen asking for conversation on phone and F2f for coffees...and they are NOT scammers....with all your protective advisements you follow...
THAT IS Good News!
That ain't happening for that many women in our upper age brackets....I'd say...Go for it!
You have been blessed with men that have checked out to be Real, Sweet, Respectful, Christian, and brave enough to ask for a decent date.....
Call Marge in here .she will test your temperature! (just kidding,.in fun!) But FAST is not the DEFAULT just saying....
I think we might be talking at cross purposes here. I did not say that I was being invited out to coffee by sweet and nice guys who are not scammers. I was trying to say that I preferred to correspond a little bit before giving out my Skype phone number or other personal details.
What happened was that a guy wanted my Skype number and I said that I would prefer to write a bit first and get to know each other. So he stopped communicating with me.
Not many men are going to ask me out for coffee because I live at the bottom of the world, and the Australian men on here that have looked at my profile have either had no photos or don't agree with the teachings of the Church that I consider important, or they just aren't interested in me. when I first joined and viewed lots of profiles from all over the world, I sent out little winking emoticons or smiley faces to quite a few - but none of them were interested in me. I am prepared to live anywhere, but it just seems to me that men want to get to that face to face stage almost immediately so they don't want someone who lives far away. I don't really understand because once we have communicated via email/messages for awhile, we can then Skype with video for awhile, and if all seems good, I can travel to see the guy in person. I travel all over the world (just got back from Europe last July and was in the States for three months before that) so the idea of long distance doesn't worry me but I know that to some people, they have hardly moved outside their own locale, State, country.
Anyway, I guess what I was trying to say was that patience can open a lot of doors, if someone is prepared to invest a little time getting to know someone instead of just writing them off because they aren't nearby or not ready to give away personal info in the first one or two messages.
And BTW, at my age, I don't get many look sees at my profile. I got a lot when I first joined, but after checking them out - it seems that most of us were not good matches. I guess I am a little disappointed that a 'Catholic' site should have so many men who don't accept the teachings of the Church. I feel like a fossil sometimes because I still do.