(quote) Maria-1022025 said: Settling to me, means two things-
Knowing that someone does not fully make you happy and choosing to stay with them regardless because you are too paralyzed by fear of being alone that you are willing to live unhappily.
Knowing that someone is wrong for you and thinking that you can change them into becoming a better person, so you stick around choosing to stay with that person because you feel you can change them.
I couldn't agree more, Maria. Those are two of the reasons I'm still unmarried at 45. Unfortunately, I've had a few very serious relationships where one or both of those two things were happening.
I've always felt strongly that two people need to be rock solid on the fundamentals (especially in regard to faith). If the relationship is not built on common ground, I just see it being a disaster. If you don't see eye to eye on finances, moral standards, etc., it's just not going to work.