I raised the issue initially to point out that some of the shortcuts to including or excluding a certain person by virtue of their multiple choice-driven answer to a profile question can quite possibly result in codifying the acceptability of potential matches on mistaken or incomplete assumptions.
I think it might be time to recollect what motivated any of us to join CM - that is, to find others, or another, with whom to share our lives. Yet, rather than emphasize the values we share, our discussions, if they include specific issues, aggressively seek and point out the differences, the unacceptable differences that we have manufactured from a dearth of information. Why would people looking for a life partner focus instead on what often amounts to the condemnation of the individual person?
Given that, despite the fact that we are all created in God's image and are equals, we are each designed in such a fashion as to be completely unique - in other words, God has not gotten lazy and started making carbon copies - we are destined to have some differences. How, then, can we resurrect our original positive goal of finding agreement and consensus from this morass of direct judgments of character, as well as comments using semantics for purposes of making distinctions without a difference?
I think it's high time to begin the Quest for Affirmation.
So, let's separate the judgment of anyone's particular views from the judgment of them as a person.
How would one begin?