Tom, the problem with a lot of men is that you connect with a woman who happens to answer you, and you immediately assumed this is your match for life, or as one called me with the first email, "the love of my life." You hold on to this person like glue, because you are afraid if you let go, there will not be another, because most people don't answer, or as you suggested, do not read their mail. The man precipitates the "relationship" full speed ahead, and that kind of relationship is doomed, and will soon crumbled. It takes a long, long time, and I mean time, not many number of emails, and telephone marathons to establish a relationship. You are total strangers to each other, with different baggage, ways of thinking, viewpoints, perspectives, personalities, and the many experiences that have established your identity throughout the years. There is also the pain remaining of your lost spouse who was the love of your life, and you can't imagine you will ever match with anyone else, or have a total stranger come into your life, without knowing you, who will care about you. I, personally do not want to marry again. My life is wonderful as is, but it would be nice to find a wonderful, decent partner with whom to share lovely things together. Amen!
Victoria, West Los Angeles