(quote) Celine-1048968 said: To put it like a kindergartener, if this is a match site to match a person with a potential spouse; don't most normal people desire to know what their potential spouse looks like
now? (within the past three years at least)
We all realize that people change physically--it's called aging.
They also change mentally, spiritually, emotionally.
But love is not love which alters when it alteration finds. (Shakespeare, sonnet 116)
Again, permit me to repeat the question: why is it that some people don't post their photograph on this match site? Shouldn"t it be required?
There is a whole range of reasons why someone may not have a profile photo. When I first joined CM, I didn't have a photo posted either.
Internet dating was a learning experience for me. I was not very comfortable with posting my photos on the internet for a bunch of strangers to look at. There are lots of privacy concerns there, as I was self-conscious about internet dating, and I didn't want to endure ribbing. Some internet dating sites made me want to vomit, so I was glad I never posted my pictures in those places. I had no idea who could see my photos and who couldn't, as some sites didn't make it very clear. I had heard horror stories about scammers, and was to some extent afraid. I also did not want to be judged on my appearances, as I wanted to find someone who wanted to get to know me as a person because we had something in common. I wanted my written profile to actually be read before someone contacted me.
Over time, after looking at some CM profiles, and reading the posts in the forums, I became more comfortable with the CM atmosphere. A comment that I heard over and over in various ways was that people are more comfortable communicating with someone when they have an idea of what the person they are talking to looks like. So, I posted some scrapbook pictures at first, then after a while, a profile picture.
I don't think that people who don't post pictures are not "normal". In fact, over the time I have been on internet dating sites, there are some pretty abnormal people who post photos. Posting photos has nothing to do with being normal.