My advice is to ask yourself if you would want your dad to be 75 years old at your high school graduation? That is assuming you can meet, marry, and have children within two years. Or better yet, do you want to be alive to see them graduate? Ask your 35 year old fiance if she is prepared to raise her family as a single parent? Or are you willing to risk having children with disabilities? The older a parent is (either one), the greater chance of a cell not dividing and having a chromosome imbalance.
I'm not trying to be rude, in fact it is very much my own reality and my husband would have been only in his 60's at our children's graduation.
There are plenty of single moms out there that could use a kind, Catholic man in their lives. At your age, I'd look for a ready made family and be the dad those children don't, or may never, have. Being open to children does not mean they have to come from your loins.
Welcome to the forums.
Be prepared for some rocky terrain in front of you if this is what you are seeking. While it is a beautiful thing that you want to be a father, and you want to be married and raise those children in the context of a family, there are many challenges in your scenario. There are not very many women that welcome the advances of men who are old enough to be their father. Also, approaching a relationship where you view the woman as the means to an end, and not as a whole person, is not a spiritually healthy mindset; it will not lead to happiness.
Too much of the time, we approach life with "I want, I want, I want", instead of "God, lead me to where I need to be". There are many single moms closer to your own age where the children could use the guidance of a father. There are many women in their forties who may still be able to conceive. These women are human beings, with personalities that may or may not mesh with yours, with circumstances that may or may not mesh with yours, with wonderful qualities and flaws, that may or may not be suitable for you. I am not telling you what you should do; I am just suggesting that there are many options in front of you to build a life with someone. And building a life with someone means looking at more than just whether or not you will be able to conceive a child with this person, because medical fertility problems can affect both the man and the woman, regardless of their ages.
Blessings in your search.
Succinctly and beautifully worded....and, I would add...are these not HIS children you would be raising?
Don't want to sound harsh here, just curious is all!
Good luck to you
You are not the only gentleman in his 50s who wants to start a family. Consider the advice the others have given. I will not judge you. I would just remind you that you are going to limit your choices of a marriage partner. Most women of childbearing age are looking for someone close to their own age or only a little bit older.
As far as marrying into a ready-made family, that is your choice, too. There are many women who are close to your age and never married.
My advice would be to put it in your profile if you are interested in starting a family so that women past childbearing age don't contact you.
the world and live the Catholic faith. And use the Holy Family as your model.
Most serious, virtuous women appreciate honesty and straitforwardness regarding
I have read several men's profiles on this site who state that they want to father
It saves my time by ruling them out.
I respond by saying that I hope they find a good woman.