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I have a friend who has given the last 15 years raising her grandkids as both daughters are drug addicts. This seems to be a common thing these days. She feels she is not in position to meet someone nice etc. How hard must it be to have teenagers giving cheek,like they always do and a 13 month old crawling around. Does anyone know women or even men like this.?
Feb 21st 2014 new
I have heard of many different combinations of raising kids. This sounds like much prayer and possibly community involvement needed.

Family is very important. In my family, there are connections made early and late in life that are just part of our way of life. We talk about those who have passed and the old times that blend into the new. This is important to feel the contact of family. I honestly miss my two grandmothers, that I was very close too. They did influence me in many ways.

I've seen many different combinations of generations living together. After my divorce, I came back to my parents house with my three children. Life wasn't always a piece of cake, but they really did help and continue to do so. God has given us so many opportunities to grow.
Feb 23rd 2014 new
Claire, it's common for grandparents or older relatives to take care of children, because parents are absent for whatever reason. I'm a teacher and this is now common. In comparison, when I was growing up the people that took care of you were both your mother and father (and they were married to each other). The only exceptions back then was if one passed away. I didn't see too many divorced parents. Times have definitely changed as well as the decline of the traditional family unit.
I have had grandparents or older relatives as the legal guardians to children when parents had drug, legal, or health issues. A lot of times grandparents step up, because BOTH parents are not always in the kids' life, so the other parent cannot or will not step up. And there may not be anyone else in the family that can help. Grandparents and other parent stand ins usually have good intentions - keeping family & helping family so they don't end up in child services. But it can be difficult when the kids have issues or are unduly disobedient. I have seen situations like these from students. I have to give these grandparents a lot of credit, because I don't know if I'd have energy or patience to tend to young kids as a senior citizen especially if the kids needed more attention/supervision or were unruly or abusive.
Feb 23rd 2014 new
(quote) Claire-247015 said: I have a friend who has given the last 15 years raising her grandkids as both daughters are drug addicts. This seems to be a common thing these days. She feels she is not in position to meet someone nice etc. How hard must it be to have teenagers giving cheek,like they always do and a 13 month old crawling around. Does anyone know women or even men like this.?
My 16 year old (Jacob) great-nephew is now my adopted son. This concept is not new... I understand years ago families would take unrelated children and raise them as their own. Because of our faith and compassion, if we see the need, we just do it. No immediate family members qualified to foster Jacob so I stepped in. I must say it was a long arduous process with DCF to keep him in our safe home. After many tears, and scary moments we succeeded.

I was in my mid forties and was advised by mostly co-workers to think and re-think about it. I did and I'm glad I did. My late husband loved him as his own. I never regret fostering and adopting him. I'm a single elderly mom/aunt whom he keeps on her toes. It's true -- they keep you young. I know it's not for everyone, and I think God had a great deal to do with bringing Jacob into my life.

Thanks for the thread, Claire

PS: Say a little prayer for Jacob. His Confirmation date is April 6th. Praying

Feb 23rd 2014 new
Jacob sounds like good value. You are blessed. I will keep you in prayers for Easter.
Feb 24th 2014 new

It seems to me that, regardless of whether the children are your own or grandkids or foster children or something else, having kids at home is intimidating to a new friend. I think that men, in particular, who haven't raised kids are very afraid of either being stuck with hellions or of taking a back seat to them.

As has been said: nothing new, not unusual.


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Feb 25th 2014 new
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