(quote) Chris-947337 said: I made a decision back in my early teenage years that I would never have anything to do with the consumption of alcohol. Many things contributed to this decision, and to this day, I have held true to it.
I would say I have had quite the enjoyable life without it, although, it makes some things more difficult. I find it most difficult to find others that want to do anything that doesn't involve drinking. I hang out on occasion with work friends at the bars, but I find it only fun until everyone around me stops being themselves due to the effects of consumption, at which point I usually say goodnight and head for home.
To this day, I have found absolutely nobody that has made such a decision as I have. While I do have some friends that drink very casually, most of them are pretty bent on getting drunk at almost all social functions if possible.
So, this brings me to my question and reason for posting this topic. Is there anyone else on here that has made the decision to go against the societal norm of consuming alcohol? How do you deal with it friends wise and even dating wise?
I also made a decision a long time ago not to get involved with alcohol. I do have an occasional drink and once a month I attend a girls only Bunko night where there is a lot of drinking. I always bring a bottle of water or a soda with me. There is no drinking and driving as everyone makes arrangements before hand and on occasion I drive people home. No one gives me much of a hard time about it. They've tried ribbing me about it sometimes and I just shrug and grin and take a drink of water. When it starts to get to the point where I am getting uncomfortable I excuse myself and go home.
When I spent a month up in Canada for some trianing, I was housing with a large number of college age kiddos and we went out. I have never been more impressed with a bunch of young people in my life. Before we even left the house the designated driver was selected and that person was treated all night to sodas and food and had a great time. And, even though they drank fairly liberally none of them ended up falling down drunk or hung over the net day. Those were some of the most pleasant drinking events I have ever been a part of :-).
Kids here deliberately go out to get smashed. And, they state it -- they aren't going out to have a drink with friends, they are going out to get wasted, drunk or smashed. I think people can drink responsibly and I've learned over the years to relax a little about drinking. My dad was an alcoholic and I've known more than a few in my lifetime -- they make life very difficult for people. But, not everyone who drinks is a drunk.
I have never had too much trouble with people trying to force me to drink or giving me a hard time about it. And, if they have I tell them, that my dad had an issue, I know it can run in families and I have no desire to be an embarrassment to my friends or family or to myself -- finding out later that I did something really stupid or threw up all over somebody's apartment or wake up one morning and find I can't even start my day without a drink. Can't do it. Even Pete had been drinking more than I was comfortable with the last few years of his life.
Just know Chris there is absolutely nothing wrong with you for choosing not to drink. those around you have the right to choose to drink or not and you have the right to excuse yourself when their drinking has passed your comfort zone.