(quote) Kathy-1068357 said: I think a complement to the Temperament Test that CM provides is the 5 Love Languages 60 second quiz which can be found on www.5lovelanguages.com Dr. Gary Chapman, a Christian author, wrote a book with the same title. The premise is that we all have "Emotional Tanks" that are filled through 5 Love Languages in relationships. The 5 Love Language Needs are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. When each partner is aware of their specific love language they can communicate it to their partner. Think back over the years to holes in your relationships. What fills your emotional tank? For me it is quality time and physical touch a close second.
Chapman is good. He makes the point that if, just for example, you rate touch highly and your partner rates gifts highly, then you can spend a lot of time and energy touching your partner, and your partner can give you a lot of gifts, and neither of you will feel really loved, because each of you is wrongly assuming that the other responds to your own 'love language' rather than to his/her own. Very handy to know!