Leslie, Welcome to the challenge. This is not easy. I've been around the site a while, not as long as some but longer than others. I hear your frustration. I spend time, get into my cheerful me place and I just do what I think is a cheerful charming message. I use to think, I have no photo that's why I'm getting no reply. . I put on my photo. I'm not awesome but I wouldn't scare anyone with my photo.?? Well I don't think so. Nothing. Then I thought my profile needs a boost, that's why. I tweaked my profile. No. ? Then I got a thought, send out a lot of hello messages by increasing the number of messages I send, that'll do it! No. OK, my messages are to long. Shorter messages. No. Now what? Now my latest reason for not getting more responses is my age. Blah the age card....I didn't go to that until I was really stuck. It's my age! Whatever the reason I have a lot of company of all ages wondering why the men are on site but silent. They are not all silent I've got to know a few and I've enjoyed the messages. I've stayed with catholicmatch because the Forums are really good. There's good information and at times I get a really good laugh. Best to you.